Although this section is for family members, I am posting about one of my best friends, as she has been, over the years, more like a sister to me than my own.
My friend always concentrated on her career, and when I had children she became their favourite aunty. She always longed for children of her own, but never met the right guy.
A few years ago she met a guy (who we didn't feel was good enough for her) and as he was her first real boyfriend, she was consumed with him. Every time we met up it she constantly talked about him, his ex and his son. I'd patiently listen, offer advice when asked. Each time we caught up it was always the same conversations, often for hours on end. I wanted to be supportive of her, but with 6 kids, my non-kid time is limited iykwim, and I couldn't listen to her forever. Then, if I tried to talk about what was happening in my life she'd quickly change it back to the boyfriend, his ex and his son.
That relationship ended and now she's with a great guy. He also has an ex and 3 children. Now when we catch up the conversation is always about his ex and the children. It seems as if it's the only topic she can talk about (I try to change the subject, even onto other matters in her life, but she always switches it back).
I am currently going through quite a few personal problems myself. My friend wants to catch up, but I just cant be her listening post to the ex/children topic yet again. I would love to share my own problems with her, but I doubt she'll listen for a few minutes without switching the topic back. I feel as though the friendship has become so one-sided and not as fulfilling, although I'd never want to end the friendship.
How can I (discretely) tackle her on this?