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    Feeling a bit better today, obviously things aren't great, but it's not as bad as I was expecting.

    I think he's decided that there is no going back, that this is final, and to be honest I'm not all that worried. There will definitely be conditions if we try to make it work, I'm not falling into our old relationship

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    I'm guessing he was drinking last night, woke up to some nasty posts on fb. At least he's demonstrated to everyone why it had to be this way.

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    Well today wasn't great, he turned up to pick dd up and pack some more stuff and we ended up fighting and arguing. I can clearly see the reasons behind the break up.

    In the words of someone I can't remember at the moment "sometimes love just ain't enough".

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    People often show their true colours once they know they have nothing to lose. Stay strong, keep your dignity and remember you have a little persons whose life you are shaping, dont let her see her mummy upset and angry.

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    I think you might be right missie mack. I encouraged counselling earlier this year- after 2 sessions he refused to go back

    And yes, definitely true colours showing, he's pretty much shown me exactly while we will never work.

    Oh, and he told me he has been logging onto my Facebook. So I changed my password. It's just such a typical thing for him to do. I guess I'd better change other passwords as well.

    It was a little awkward picking dd up from his parents place tonight but they at least made me feel welcome.

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    It's probably a good thing he is showing his true self, keep this feeling in mind if you ever consider getting back together. I'd keep copies of all correspondence & as someone else said, be the better person for your dd.
    oh & definately change all passwords.

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    What a douche! I wish you a life of happiness, it sounds like life with him was anything but in recent times.

    So sorry you have to go through all this, but it sounds like it's definitely the right choice.

    Here if you need me.

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    Thanks everyone.

    I'm sure he has probably been on here searching for my posts by my other profile as well.

    I am just focusing on being strong and the best person I can be.

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    Try to look at it this way - after the dust settles this is win-win for you. If he realises what he's lost, makes concerted effort and changes and 6-12 months down the track you *may* take him back, then you win bc you'll have a more healthy relationship where he knows you won't put up with crap. If he doesn't, and stays being a douche or you simply decide there's no going back, then you win bc you will have peace, no fighting in front of your child and you can let the unhappy life you had with him go.

    I notice there seems to be a distinct pattern in relationship breakdowns where the woman instigates. After months and often years of trying to make it work and threatening to leave, she finally has enough one day and says get out. He stays with family, but promises the earth, begs forgiveness and generally makes her feel sorry for him. Then he works out it's over for good and then he morphs from begging grief-stricken partner into a childish, nasty SOB bc he realises she's finally gained the strength to stand for no more.

    Don't feel sorry for him

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    I could have written your post myself my now xDP n I broke up in jan after nearly 5 years I had been with him since I was 17 . It was and still is hard n I often doubted myself n wanted that happy family I was promised for kids and I and I'm so glad now that in out and im never going back stay strong hugs


 

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