Things I hate about IVF.....

**April78** · 23-04-2012 19:17

Originally Posted by jetaime

But actually, I had every damn thing about it. Until I get my baby, them Im sure Ill change my view

AGREE !!

**Ivy33** · 23-04-2012 19:59

This is the laugh I needed tonight! Each comment rings so true. Things I hate about IVF is freaking putting your life on hold for "a chance". Each cycle is emotionally, physically and monetary hard and there isn't a single guarantee, other than you will be about $5000 to $8000 lighter at the end!

**PoppyLoppy** · 23-04-2012 20:45

Just as a little tangent- what I love about ivf is the bigger boozies, even if they're only there for a month

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**Frostysmum** · 24-04-2012 11:56

Originally Posted by Meshell23

Wow the list is never ending isnt it. I guarantee as soon as I get my BFP all these hate thoughts will vanish from my mind but until then I despise everything IVF as my life feels its being put on hold for this silly game of roulette

No it doesn't Meshell. I still hate it all with a passion, even thinking about the hard times still make me tear up, esp the lost potential babies. My age aside after this bub, I don't think I'd want to ever do this again.

Strangely with this stupid gamble addiction, when I finally feel that we'll be getting a take home baby (next week), I still don't feel as if I've won something. It's a feeling of "Wow, thank God I scraped through this time".

**Allymumtobe** · 24-04-2012 12:50

Originally Posted by Meshell23

When I see my child I believe I will be more overwhelmed with how thankful I am that I live in a day and age where science and medicine has been able to give me a child where if this was 50 years ago I wouldnt have had a hope in hell conceiving with my husbands sperm.
I hate that I am going through IVF never thought at 25 years of age married house great job and husband we would find he had dud sperm and I would be going through all this cr@p to conceive. But I tell you if this is my only chance of us having our own child then I am thankful.

Good luck with the birth of your child next week I am extremely envious I cannot wait to be in the same position!!

Agreed! I thought I was pushing sh*t uphill getting a house at 21 married at 23 that was easy in comparison to making a baby at 24!!!

**nicole83** · 24-04-2012 14:27

Originally Posted by Frostysmum

No it doesn't Melzey. I still hate it all with a passion, even thinking about the hard times still make me tear up, esp the lost potential babies. My age aside after this bub, I don't think I'd want to ever do this again.

Strangely with this stupid gamble addiction, when I finally feel that we'll be getting a take home baby (next week), I still don't feel as if I've won something. It's a feeling of "Wow, thank God I scraped through this time".

This.

I have a beautiful dd from out first cycle and yes the pain went away for a while. But when we were ready to try again all those emotions returned. It's heart breaking on a different level because I feel like my DD deserves a sibling. She is wonderful with babies and adores them. I am now fighting for me, dh and now dd to get another baby and that pressure is enormous. I always thought the pressure would subside once I had ONE perfect baby. Nope, I want it just as bad and I am scared for some many other reasons this time.

I also get afraid of losing her. She had her first operation today (just grommets in day surgery) and I am sure every mum gets upset but I feel like I was upset on a whole new level. She is my miracle and my entire world. She was so hard to get, what if I ever lose her? I am so scared of this. Would I live with these constant feelings of fear if I had of conceived her naturally? Maybe a little bit, but probably not to this extent.

I also hate when people say well you have one perfect baby...as if to say, so what if you can't have another one. Well my feelings aren't any different to anyone else who can conceive naturally. When your baby gets to a certain age (for me, 1 yr old) you start to get clucky again. What am I supposed to do with those feelings, switch them off because I already have one perfect baby? That's not fair, and no I can not. I love her in a way that no one else (that conceives naturally) will ever understand. ivf has left me as damaged goods...on so many levels.

**Disney Baby** · 24-04-2012 14:27

I don't know if other clinics are the same, but I hate that they tell you to NOT expect it to work the first time (meaning they don't think it will either), yet they don't organise for you to see the FS to start a new cycle on time if it doesn't work.

My FET was a BFN and my AF came early and I was told that I would have to wait another month because I was 1 day behind...well I wouldn't have been 1 day behind if you had already organised for me to see you incase it didn't work.

I cried and got my way, but I feel terrible about it

**Disney Baby** · 24-04-2012 14:33

I also wanted to add I hate how emotional it is...

I started jabbing again yesterday and I cry everytime I do it because, for me, last time I did all this I got pregnant but unfortunately lost it.
I guess it just reminds me of how I felt the first time around, and makes me upset that I may never feel that way again because it will never work.

Oh geez...shouldn't have read and posted in here just before work!

**nicole83** · 24-04-2012 14:33

... Double post

**Allymumtobe** · 24-04-2012 14:35

Originally Posted by Disney Baby

I don't know if other clinics are the same, but I hate that they tell you to NOT expect it to work the first time (meaning they don't think it will either), yet they don't organise for you to see the FS to start a new cycle on time if it doesn't work.

My FET was a BFN and my AF came early and I was told that I would have to wait another month because I was 1 day behind...well I wouldn't have been 1 day behind if you had already organised for me to see you incase it didn't work.

I cried and got my way, but I feel terrible about it

This is why I always do the sneaky and book extra appointments! I have one may 11 ad incase they cants sign off on us starting I booked another for June a week before as is due incase I've lost enough by then to start I don't want to miss a cycle because thy re too busy for me I'm booking a drugs appointment etc too. And I'll do the same if by June it's still a no I'll book another appointment plus the drugs and counseling I refuse to have to wait just because of scheduling