No guns or weapons at the moment. I don't mind if when they get older they have water pistols but I don't want something that supposed to look like a kalishnakov et al. DS does have a little toy cannon that actually shoots wooden bullet type things at soldiers - it's not something I would have actually bought him but it's hand crafted entirely by FIL so I can't really say no (FIL is a very skilled wooden toy maker).
A few weeks ago we were at a big family reunion bbq and there were a handful of toys, one of which was a toy gun. DS picked it up and said "what's this?". I like that his is blissfully unaware of such things.
As for more girly toys, I will be actively delaying as long as possible any bratz, barbies, etc. BLEGH!!!!!