What is discreet BF?

[giggle berry]

I think that I discreetly BF when in public, I don't use anything to cover my DS but my tops are BF friendly.
Sometimes a little cleavage may be on display but less than you'd see in a club.
DH supports me BF but coming from Scotland where it is not popular he is uncomfortable when I BF while we are out.
Always asks me if I'm "allowed" to BF where we are...I keep telling him that this is Australia and I am "allowed" to BF wherever I need to!
The other day we were out with friends and the other mum was BF her 7 week old under a large shawl.
DH said to me, "see you can't even tell she's feeding her baby, why don't you do that too?"

Ggrrrrrh

Should I be more discreet?
What gentle replies should I give him?
Don't want to be too harsh as he isn't trying to be difficult just spent a long time living somewhere where it's ok to ask mums to leave if they're BF so he's always paranoid we'll get in trouble.

[Bubbles10]

when you keep your pants on, leave the nipple tassles at home, and don't announce that you are about to feed over the P.A. system.

[*Chels*]

That sux hes like that,but I guess some men just dont get it like we do
I think it sounds like you arent getting out both boobies out and squirting people so I think its safe
When I was breastfeeding,I carried a muslin wrap around with me,so if I was somewhere I wanted a bit of privacy,I would latch bub on then just cover my exposed booby with the cloth(never covered the whole baby

[GothChick]

when you keep your pants on, leave the nipple tassles at home, and don't announce that you are about to feed over the P.A. system.

OP, who gives a monkeys uncle what anyone else thinks. That is what I have come to realise being back on bubhub. You do what is best for you and your baby. You feed where you need to, in whatever fashion you need to. Shawl, no shawl, boob covered or not.

Being from the UK, we are a little prudish I think, hubby just needs to be around BF'ing mothers more, he'l start to see how normal it is.

[misskittyfantastico]

when you keep your pants on, leave the nipple tassles at home, and don't announce that you are about to feed over the P.A. system.

So that's where I'm going wrong! lol

I'd just keep reassuring him that you are legally entitled to breastfeed wherever and whenever you like.

As for shawls etc... some women and bubs are comfortable using them and some aren't - I don't use any coverings as I need to see what bub is doing attachment wise and bub hates being covered up.

I recently was feeding DS2 in a food court and a guy in his early 30's at the next table says "Excuse me!" and I thought oh here we go - it'll be on like Donkey Kong! Instead he just wanted to tell me how nice it was to see a mum breastfeeding her bub and that i was going a great thing.

[headoverfeet]

when you keep your pants on, leave the nipple tassles at home, and don't announce that you are about to feed over the P.A. system.

This is what I'm comfortable with

[kw123]

It sounds like it is him with the problem not you!

Just wanted to set the record straight about poor Scotland though.... They have exactly the same views on BF there as they do here (and I think laws too) so I honesty just think its something he had a problem with, not because of where he comes from (in case you hadn't guessed I am from Scotland!).

Hope you can sort it out with him. It must not be a nice feeling to feel unsupported. I'm really nervous about BF in public already!!

[CazHazKidz]

I consider myself a discreet breastfeeder. I always wear a singlet under a tshirt and pull the tshirt up and the singlet down. I never cover up with a blanket as DD won't tolerate that, plus it's too awkward. I manage to show very little skin doing it this way. I think whatever is comfortable for you and bub is fine. Anyone who is concerned by it is paying way too much attention.

[grumpybump]

What gentle replies should I give him?
Don't want to be too harsh as he isn't trying to be difficult just spent a long time living somewhere where it's ok to ask mums to leave if they're BF so he's always paranoid we'll get in trouble.

I think a gentle way would be through demonstration. Next time you're having dinner, without saying anything just put a shawl or towel over his head. Ask him how he likes it. 'Nuff said.

[happygirl1982]

I will discreet breast feed because I'd hate to make other people feel uncomfortable. I know it's natural and normal etc but for some people it isn't and why should they feel wrong. My baby will still be fed. I'm happy they're happy baby's happy !