I've been with my partner near on eight years now. We have been really good for the past year especially. But since we found out I was pregnant four weeks ago he has been quite distant. It wasn't planned but he was very happy when I told him. But since, when I mention the baby or the pregnancy he seems indifferent and hardly responds, he seems uninterested. Then, when he seemed funny whenever I went beat his phone (to turn off the alarm in the morning) I looked further and found messages he had sent to two girls that he had cheated on me with a few years back and then promised never to speak to again, asking them to meet for drinks. When I asked about it he gave me a story about how he was asking to set them up with his mates, who are both newly single. When I asked I I could look at all the messages to confirm this he told me that he doesn't think he should have to let me, I could either trust and believe him, or not. I told him I didn't trust him, but the next day he just acted as though nothing had happened.
So, what do you think, am I being paranoid or does it seem wrong? I live him very much it sounds very corny but he has become my life! and i don't want to leave him when I'm so unsure, but at the same time I don't want to set a precedent that he can get away with this. I don't want my child to be brought up in an environment where they learn that it's ok to treat someone like that or let themself be treated like that. At the same time, I'm not sure I could do this on my own. All of my family has recently moved interstate and and I work for my partners business!
Some advice is so very needed!