I'm sorry if I am doubling up but I need advice.
My 22month old son became a big brother two weeks ago so I'm still giving him some time to adjust to this new role and what's entailed - however - the whining and the tantrums are just doing my head in.
I can distract and deal with tantrums through the day but the bedtime tantrum has gone on EVERY SINGLE NIGHT for months. It's like the tantrum is part of the 'routine' for him to go to bed.
His routine for night time is no tv, dinner, drink of milk from his cup, teeth and story time. We don't mind that he doesn't go to sleep right away, so we encourage him to keep reading his books to his teddies but he just screams from his bed until we go back in and read him another book (he would get us to read 100 if he had his way). He has the hallway light on till he falls off to sleep.
He's a little like my husband ... only listens to me when I'm yelling and I don't want to be a yeller! I lost it tonight and yelled at him and I hate myself for that. I don't want to see my boy recoil away from me in fear. I don't want to see my boy crying because I have yelled at him.
Can anyone suggest what I'm doing wrong with this routine? The boy just would not go to bed if he had his way and I have a newborn.
Can you also suggest any tips on keeping your cool when it comes to these tantrums.
Thanks for your time