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    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    Somedays I am so touched out I just want to lay on the floor like a starfish and have absolutely no one touch me and just be on my own. But I persist and I am sure many others do too.
    Oh yea! I have definitely been there.. It's not a nice feeling. I usually go and have a shower and try to hide from them allllllll lol

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    My mum saw my 9 yr old cousin being breastfed which she thought was unnecessary... Dunno when she stopped... Too scared to ask! lol
    My sis bf's her 4 year old...which is thought of as a 'bit excessive' by the rest of the family..

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    Missy Mack, you do see how wrong your comment about putting your child first is? I formula fed from birth with both of my kids and I was definitely putting them first by doing it. I would think all good parents make their choices to be the best choices for their children, the variables in each decision are vast.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    Missy Mack, you do see how wrong your comment about putting your child first is? I formula fed from birth with both of my kids and I was definitely putting them first by doing it. I would think all good parents make their choices to be the best choices for their children, the variables in each decision are vast.
    I breastfed DS until he was nearly 4, so I actually get what she was trying to say with that comment. I get how it could be taken the wrong way by someone who hasn't breastfed for an extended time though.

    From my perspective, I get what she was saying because my decision to continue BFing DS had nothing to do with my wants or needs. I was totally 'over it' by about 28-24 months, but it was obvious that DS got great comfort from it so I just never bothered to put him through the trauma of stopping. It wasn't until he went away to NZ for 2 weeks with his dad that I took the opportunity to wean him (I had to start talking about it weeks and weeks beforehand though, I didn't just spring it on him).

    So yeah, while I get that it could be taken as offensive, it's probably just hard to understand unless you've been in the shoes of someone who has breastfed for an extended period.

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    I do understand the comment completely, I'm making the point that extended BFing isn't always the best thing for the kid, sometimes a parent returning to work is the best thing as they won't end up homeless, weaning or not feeding to save their mental health can be the best thing as the child retains a stable/sane parents... As I said, too many variables, optimal nutrition isn't necessarily the most important thing a child needs. People approach feeding way too black and white.

    I understand the sacrifices, perseverance and resistance to societal judgement extended BFing takes. It's really admirable and commendable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    I see how you may have misconstued the comment but I disagree that all parents make decisions in their childs best interest. Everyday there are parents making decisions not in their childs best interest purely because they didn't want to or don't like it or even just plain uninformed.
    All "good" parents, please don't misquote me. You can only make choices based on what you know, so that doesn't extend to uninformed parents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    I see how you may have misconstued the comment but I disagree that all parents make decisions in their childs best interest. Everyday there are parents making decisions not in their childs best interest purely because they didn't want to or don't like it or even just plain uninformed.
    She mentioned all GOOD parents, not all parents.
    I was offended by your comment because it hit a nerve with me. I contracted swine flu when my DD's were 3 months old and lost my supply after 5 days no contact. I was devastated and embarrassed but I couldn't boost my supply and so rather than keep feeding my DD's practically nothing I had to put them on formula, which is putting my child's needs first.
    I just think that last comment implied that those who don't long term BF don't put their child's needs first, sorry it's just how it came across to me.
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    yes plenty of formula
    feeders are still putting their child first.

    I love breastfeeding and extended feeding but i was lucky.. it worked for me with 2 of my kids and was fairly easy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    What constitutes a 'good parent' is subjective. Most parents think they are a good parent, in my experience and what they are doing is right.

    Mum2be09- I can understand why you are sensitive about the issue I hope you can find peace with the fact you did what was best for your child/ren at the time. But if you go back and reread the post it was responding to anothers post about the motives of extended breastfeeding, not a general response to the whole thread.
    Thank you. I'm sorry if I took it the wrong way, I wasn't trying to have a go at you.


 

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