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    Default Late Pregnancy and social life

    Ok, I need others thoughts here,

    I was invited to have drinks in the evening with 2 friends, one is headed to Vegas on a business trip and the other is just getting social after halving her first baby 3 months ago.

    Not a big night for anyone! For me at 35wks this probably is meaning soft drink or some funky virgin cocktail with an umbrella (ohhhhh yeeeah)!

    I was really warming up to the idea, a chance to put on makeup, do my hair and be out of the house in a grown up social scene for the first time since Ds was born 14 months ago and once newbie is here I'm kinda boobytrapped by breastfeeding!

    When I asked DP what time he finished work because I would like to go and he flipped saying I was selfish and irresponsible for even considering leaving the house in case I went into labour!

    I think this was a ridiculous statement. I still drive to my OB appointments a go to get groceries and the hospital would be the same distance away from home and the people I was planning on being with know how to call triple 0!!!

    Please let me know should I be confining myself to the house for the last month

    Did you stop going anywhere for fear of a baby being born in the freezer aisle?

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    I think you should go if you are feeling up to it! Sounds like a good chance to catch up with some friends.
    I was still working up until 39weeks, 40mins away from my home and the hospital!!!

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    Men are funny sometimes! Tell him if you go into labour you will call him after you finish your umbrella drink.

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    I agree it is a ridiculous statement. Going out all night and getting drunk would be selfish & irresponsible. You wanting to dress up a little and have a few quiet, non alcoholic drinks with your friends is a great idea! Has the ob put you on bed rest ? Did your son arrive prematurely? If not, I think you deserve a night out before your next bub arrives.

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    I must admit I didn't go anywhere for the last 6-8 weeks of my pregnancy however I was absolutely enormous and couldn't tie my own shoelaces let alone drive anywhere. My DH used to drop me at my mums everyday before he went to work because he didn't want to leave me at home alone. I don't think you are being selfish, if you feel good enough to go out and have some fun with your friends I say do it. Did you have DS early is that why he is panicking? Maybe he is just worried about you and flipping out like this is his way of dealing with it. If you are 35 weeks I doubt you would go into labour unless you have a history of prem births. A friend of mine has had all 3 of her babies anywhere from 32 weeks to 36 weeks so I would understand if her hubby didn't let her go out but i think you would be fine. I hope he changes his mind and you can go have some fun.

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    I think it's fine. I went to a hens party when I was 38weeks pregnant. just take it easy.
    You've got a phone you can call him if it happens and come get you. Simple.
    Hope you go an have a well needed girls night.

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    I got increasingly concerned that my dd might try & make an early appearance and I wondered what would happen if I was out at the time, but I still had to go out. My ds still had Kinder, dh was even away when I was 35 weeks pregnant. I was out all the time and often for hours on end. I don't think it's selfish. But, what your dh is saying is that he is feeling anxious about you having the bub and he wants to be there with you. Listen to what he's saying and talk to him about these feelings .. and gently tell him that you cannot stay home for the next 4 - 6 weeks just 'incase' the baby comes. It's actually better for you to stay fit & healthy and keep doing as much as you can manage.

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    You know your own body - surely if you didn't feel up to it you wouldn't ask. You list validated reasons as to why you should go, have you explained these to him?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qwerty View Post
    Men are funny sometimes! Tell him if you go into labour you will call him after you finish your umbrella drink.
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    Honestly he might be afraid, ask him what his fears are and go from there? Or you could just go..tell him to explore his own fears.

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    Ridiculous. As long as you feel fine & no issues then what is the problem??
    As long as you have a working phone etc - and you'll be with friends so it isn't like there will be no-one to help you should something happen...


 

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