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    simple...tell him he can get up and settle her then!!!!!!!
    This makes me so mad (although to be fair im in a terrible mood today!!)What is soooooo wrong with having a dummy...if it settles the bub and makes your life a faction easier DO IT!!!! I was dead against dummies while i was preg with BUb #1...well that lasted all of TWO WEEKS!!! DD was a comfort sucker, she was one me 24/7. Best thing i ever did was give her a dummy.

    Stand your ground!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bellieellie View Post
    Thanks so much for your replies, I'm told him this morning that if dd refuses to settle today for more than 30 mins when he is at work (again) the dummy will be in her mouth when he gets home. I know he'll spit it and not talk to me for awhile but in the end some babies need to suck more than others... So he can deal with it.
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    Maybe give HIM the dummy if hes going to chuck a tantrum.

    I know parenting is a partnership, but sometimes you have to do what works. And a baby who wants to comfort suck, but doesnt want to feed (i have one of those this time around, shes fed 100% on demand but sometimes she wants to suck without my insane milk supply drowning her!) shouldnt be denied comfort because it looks bad. Wtf?

    Id personally just tell him im giving baby a dummy because baby can cry for a lot longer than daddy.

    My DF hates me feeding in public, he would rather I just not do it and when I do I think he wishes I used a bed sheet as a cover and make a full body tent.

    I use a cover when im with DF to make him feel better but without him I dont bother. But I would never not feed my baby because df is upset by how it looks. I respect his feelings, but I dont put them above my babies feelings

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    My DS had a dummy from 3 days to 6 weeks and then spat it out and never wanted it back. Unfortunately he wanted to comfort suck all day and as a single mum, I couldn't handle it anymore.
    Instead I got him one of those little soft cuddle blankies with the teddybear head sewn in the middle. I slept with it for a few days (shoved it down my bra so it smelt of mummies breast which is what he wanted 24/7) and then gave it to him.
    He started to suck on the satin edge of it and never sucked his thumb or a dummy again. It also helped with settling him in bed.

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    Thats a good idea misschief, ive got one of those, gonna go put it in my top right now! Lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post
    Thats a good idea misschief, ive got one of those, gonna go put it in my top right now! Lol.
    Hehehe it works though Or just keep it with you in bed at night. Some people even squirt some milk on it, but that means you'll have to wash it every day. Not my thing

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    I really don't like dummies and I think they look big n awful in an infants mouth, but if ur stressing out and can't cope then u should go for whatever option u have to keep ur sanity and cope.
    What did u do with ur older 2 kids?

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    If it was me DS there wouldn't even be a discussion I would be using the dummy.

    If my DH didn't like it then he could get up and do the re-settling.

    I do not think every parenting decision has to be make through consensus, sometimes you just have to go with what you think is best especially when it will ease stress for everyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nemmi View Post
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    You should tell do if a dummy is 'not allowed' by them then it is up to them to do every, single resettle for however long it takes to not need resettling.

    Harsh? Yeah but you should have a say in this as well, especially if you're the one settling bubs

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    agreed!


 

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