I also feel that as parents we need to have some semblance of who we are as people so we do go out to dinner/ functions etc and take DD along. Yes that stuffs her routine/rhythm up but she is part of our family and at some point we are all put out by another persons activity.
And the most selfish thing I do to DD is wake her up on the dot of 6am every day regardless of her bedtime the night before. I'm a morning person and like to get the day going early. She catches up during her nap or has an earlier bedtime. This way mummy can work hard in the mornings and leave the rest of the day devoted to DD.