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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    Could you try dressing up sexy? I know its prob the last thing you want to do but it may help you feel better, putting on some sexy lingerie, strut in front of the PS3 and tell him you have something better for him to play with and having a sexy night with him?

    do you have family near that can take baby for a few hours or a night?
    Are you on crack?!!??
    She is heavily pregnant and with a man who treats her like poo!

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Are you on crack?!!??
    She is heavily pregnant and with a man who treats her like poo!
    Sorry thought she was looking for advice for what she can do to help it was just a thought and after baby and healing might make her feel better, she says he is the way that she can feel better about herself, so I thought this would be a good way. Yelling and screaming or dumping him wont usually help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    Sorry thought she was looking for advice for what she can do to help it was just a thought and after baby and healing might make her feel better, she says he is the way that she can feel better about herself, so I thought this would be a good way. Yelling and screaming or dumping him wont usually help.
    Her OP was clearly a vent/cry for support and leaving an emotionally abusive partner is a really valid option. How about HE makes the effort to stop w@anking, being distant and being as useful as tits on a bull and just loves his partner and child?

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    oh honey.
    He is demeaning you and thats not good.

    He needs to grow up and stop acting like a 15 year old and act like a man.

    Sex is not a duty or a job. It is something to make 2 people feel connected. It may be for pleasure, love, lust..but BOTH people should be into it.

    No one should ever feel they have to perform to keep someone...if they do , then this is a relationship that needs some work..imo.

    I guess my advice is to work on your self esteem so that you can gain the confidence to be treated hwo you deserve to be treated.

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    The OP is heavily pregnant, her DP should be treating her like a queen. Why should she be putting in more effort when she has done all the parenting so far and he has done what, playing games and flogged off?

    Dressing up sexy and strutting around in front of him will be rewarding incredibly poor behavior.

    OP, be straight with him, tell him he needs to pull his weight, put down the ps3 and start parenting. He needs to quit lying about the porn and needs to make you feel appreciated.

    If you have been doing all the parenting while he's been sitting on his *** then how have your emotional needs been met? Do you ever get a break?

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    The thing is I would love to be back in my hot lingere - but not for him, for me. I feel he doesn't deserve the effort and it would be forgotten 5 minutes after anyway.

    Women shouldn't be performing seals, hot (but comfortable) lingere and feeling sexy should be a constant in your life if that's what makes you feel good.
    If he gets a kick out of lace knickers then that should be a bonus not an expectation.

    if its no fun for you to get out of your trackies and granny pants then you shouldn't.

    Plus i feel DP should want to invest time into his son me and the newbie.

    He always used to help around the house now he does next to nothing, occasionally he changes a nappy or my personal favourite - he will put DS on his lap and play PS3 while DS watches, which I really disapprove of.
    I don't want couch reliant children!

    I don't get leisure time, unless I just leave the house, thing is being 33 weeks pregnant hanging out at the shops isn't enjoyable, I can't walk around for a long time and need to pee every 5 minutes!!!

    I would love for him to heave his *** out of bed at 5am when DS wakes up and give me a sleep in or to put DS to bed and be the one to go settle him when he wakes up.

    But for some reason he feels that I'm home all day having a holiday.

    Family is far far away and our friends are either single or I hate to say not people you would want to leave your kids with.

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    My response to his behaviour would be to take away the ps3. Pack it up somewhere and when he throws his hissy fit let him know you're ready to talk about needs.

    He's being a jerk. You don't need the stress.

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    I can't believe people's advice is to give b.low jobs or dress up sexy. Um, the guy is being a jerk, shoving it in your gob won't fix that. OP, I'm so glad you can see past that hideous advice and I hope you actually get some proper help from professionals who don't suggest you need to be sexually subservient to him to keep him happy. Sex is a joyous bonus. Not a right. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    Sorry thought she was looking for advice for what she can do to help it was just a thought and after baby and healing might make her feel better, she says he is the way that she can feel better about herself, so I thought this would be a good way. Yelling and screaming or dumping him wont usually help.
    How can proffering head jobs on request make HER feel better? I guess if her mouth is full she can't yell?

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    Just make sure you bite down hard if you give him a b job lol

    Seriously though take the power cord for the ps3 and tell him its time to man up.


 

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