That your stomach will be a gaping hole for a bit after having the baby. I got home from hospital and hoped into the shower and laid back in the bath (one of those showers with the bath combined) and took a nice deeeep relaxing breath. As I breathed out, my stomach relaxed and properly caved in.....FREAKED, ME, OUT! Was not expecting that hahaha So yeah....not really a tip, more of a warning hahaha
***Happy to be a Mummy & Daddy of ONE! :-) ***
The fact that babies sleep all the time is a total myth lol I enrolled in study and thought I could study during my time off as thought I'd be bored, then I had a baby who slept 'up to' 20mins at a time
My first is a week old today and I would have liked to know that you really don't need to buy everything before bub is born. If shes plsnning on buying nappies before bub is born, Remind her that 2 boxes of newborn nappies should be an adequate amount and you probably won't need much more.
Learning to swaddle before bub arrived would have been a good idea, my skills were so poor he would get his arms out within seconds of me doing it.
Finally I think the last thing I would have wanted to know was that everything does come naturally, that it will take a few attempts to work out what is upsetting your baby and to give everything time. Also to be confident in her ability to care for her child, if she stresses or is nervous it will only make bub restless and harder to settle. Mum always knows best, even if Gran is sitting next to you telling you to do something else.
I wish I researched bf more and maybe even got more support where it was available.
So many great things mentioned!
I'll add a few.
- tens machine and bath(not together lol) were amazing during labour
- you may not form an instant love/attachment for your bub like in all the movies, and it's normal!
- lansinoh and hydrogel breast discs are a lifesaver in those first few days.
- not all babies like to be wrapped or swaddled, I wish I'd known about the love to dream swaddle before.
- some days babies just want to cry (try to look on the bright side, they are strengthening their lungs) and its ok to cry with them and not know what to do. Take 5 mins to yourself, have a cuppa or a shower. They can fed off your mood, if your stressed they will too. Or call someone and have a chat to calm yourself down. And think 'this too shall pass'. Because the moment they finally fall asleep in your arms you will have forgotten what happened 30 seconds ago(even if they'd been crying for hours).
- boys always know when the perfect time to pee is. So always have a cloth wipe handy to cover during changes.
- get a wrap/carrier (sleepy wrap for example) I don't know what I'd do without it. For all those arvos when your trying to get dinner organized or do the washing but bub wants a cuddle you can do both!
- babies don't know how to be manipulative, enjoy all those cuddles while you can.
- don't always take what your chn says as law. They tend to make you stress over nothing. And if you don't like your local nurse you can change to another!
- just because people tell you to sleep when they do, doesn't mean you can! You somehow cope on little to no sleep.
- try to spend a few mins (or more if possible) just cuddling / talking to your DP. You'll both be grateful for it and it can make you feel heaps better.
- babies don't need much but an electric cradle swing can be great!
- don't feel guilty to put your foot down or stand up for what you want when it comes to friends and family.
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