Lily - I'm not trying to dismiss what you're saying. I guess I'm just saying that I don't agree with it. I don't think anyone can know for sure that someone is doing that, unless someone owns up and says "Yes - that's me she's talking about right there."
I guess what I'm trying to say is that while it may sometimes look like that, it might not be that way. In those debate threads I often thank the same people a lot, or agree with what they say. It just means that we think similarly on a few issues - that's all. It doesn't mean that we know each other outside of BH, or are there to gang up on anyone.
(And I'm not suggesting you were talking about me - just trying to give an example of how it might look that way when it wasn't - that's all).
So, say I want to add someone on the hub to fb...
Firstly, What do I say in the PM without it coming across keeping and stalkerish?
Secondly, how awkward is it when they reject you or don't reply?
Both are serious questions...
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