So DH surprised me over the weekend. We were sitting in the park, enjoying a bit of champagne and watching DD play with the grass and torment the dogs, just enjoying that DD is now at a nice age where we can do these things again. Then DH looked at me and said "we should have another baby". I was like, yeah sure, one day. But he means now!
DD is only 8mo, I had PND after having her and have in the last couple of months finally started feeling like my old self again. DD was a very unsettled newborn and had terrible reflux thanks to CMPI and I had to give up BF. It was a very challenging first 3 months and for a while i didn't think I could cope with ever having another baby. I also returned to work 2 weeks ago and am enjoying being in the workplace again.
I always wanted 2 kids but I'm scared of getting PND again and not being able to cope, especially if we have problems in the first few months like with DD. I don't think DH really understands what it will be like - I think he likes the idea of a couple of kids but I don't know if he realizes the reality. We also had a lot of trouble conceiving and I don't know that I'm ready for that roller coaster just yet.
On the other hand I can see some good things about doing it soon. Our kids will be close in age so hopefully will be great playmates, we'll be done having babies and through the sleepless nights/nappies/teething/etc sooner, and we'll be less likely to miss out on having that second bub (early menopause is common in my family).
Ok I'll stop rambling - what did you do to prepare for a second baby? What really helped make it easier? In particular if you had PND how did you manage a new baby with a toddler in tow?