I believe that it is a form of child abuse to tell your child that they are going to hell if they sin.
I grew up with this drummed into me. Being told that there will be a nuclear war where eyes will consume away in sockets and tongues in mouths and that if I sinned and Jesus came back right at that moment - I wouldn't make it and I'd die. I even saw documentaries of nuclear haulicausts and saw the devastation of a nuclear bomb and would have nightmares about it. I'd have nightmares of dying and of seeing all my family and friends ascending to heaven while the world was being destroyed and them all looking at me as if to say "Well you were told".
I believed for a very very long time that I was going to hell for doing even the smallest things wrong. No talk of grace at all, and of cause now I actually understand what grace is...I actually drum grace into my kids now.
Yes it is spiritual abuse in the very least!