as the wife of someone who found out he was going to be a father at 14 and had his daughter born at 15 I can tell you he knew for sure what he was doing. his girlfriend was a few years older and he DEFINITELY knew what he was doing and what could happen. And he did and does pay child suppoet and is involved in her life. In fact she is here at the moment visiting us
in saying that I do believe the child in question in this scenario is better of with the dads family given what the mothers family life is like.
He was not old enough to consent, so therefore he is a victim and should not have to pay. Did she know how old he was?
I do feel the child should be with the grandparents if she(mum) is not allowed custody
Last edited by fairyflossfairy; 09-04-2012 at 17:55.
without the actual [now] man and woman from this article being here typing about their own experience at the time - we can't continue to assume if the sex was 'forced' or not.
I know I have had sex below the 'legal' age and it wasn't 'rape' by another definition.
I think 18 is way to old a limit to put on having sex!
(but I suppose that is a different thread ) ..harm minimisation vs zero tolerance and all that.
I understand the grandparents wanting their biological to be out of harms way, and I also understand encouraging a father to support his child.
I too would be interested in finding out what happened! 4 years on
Whether or not the boy was "getting his rocks off" during the.act is irrelevant.
The law is the law for a reason, and as pp have said, by law, a 15 year old is not adult enough to consent. The fact is, making this boy pay child support is a complete contradiction of a law that is meant to protect him.
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in that case should all boys who have sex underage with someone who is overage who end up as parents therefore not have to pay child support? its the child who misses out!!!
The boys/girls ARE children. That is the point. They are just as important as the baby as they to are just children.
my hussband for example, made the CHOICE to have sex underage with an older girl. So if he is classed as a child and could forgo his parental responsibilities who would have missed out? Miss 10! She is an incredible child and my hubby adores being a dad even if he was a dad so young.
I know he is legally classed as a child at that age but in reality he made the choice to have sex and he should and does live with the responsibilities and wouldnt change it for the world. i know the law states they are not able to make that decision as they are underage but IF they do decide to have sex then they should accept the consequences.
its simple, should you not want to have a baby or be responsible for one just DONT HAVE SEX!!!!! A 15 year old knows that. Its taught at school from a very early age these days.
A child cannot consent, they know the consequence but do not have the ability to fully comprehend their actions. Many adults do not understand this so how can you expect a CHILD to?
Last edited by fairyflossfairy; 09-04-2012 at 19:46.
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