View Poll Results: Say sorry to keep the peace

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  • Yes I do every single time for different things even if I have done nothing wrong

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  • Maybe once or twice for different things but certainly not every time

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  • No way, if I have done nothing wrong why should I apologise for it??!

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    I would find it hard to apologise for something that I genuinely didn't do.

    Saying sorry "to keep the peace" is more likely to create new issues than solve any iykwim.....including feelings of resentment (on your part etc).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qwerty View Post
    I haven't apologised for something I didn't do because I feel like that is admitting guilt. I am the first to say sorry if I am wrong.

    If you just ignore it and say sorry to make it go away I think it could get worse and worse.
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    Quote Originally Posted by loving6 View Post
    I will often apologises for how they are feeling or if I have hurt them but not for doing something that i feel is right. IYKIM
    ^^ This.

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    I will apologise but phrase is as "I am sorry you feel that way" . I am not apologising for what I have not done, but am apologising for someone else feeling bad.

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    Cass, if this is about Matt and his "bad in bed," whinge, then DO NOT apologise. You're setting a precedent by doing that.

    I have apologised when I've done nothing wrong, but this is with people that aren't that close to me and it just makes life easier. In a relationship or with someone you spend lots of time with, it's a stupid thing to do, because you're admitting guilt and letting them know you're a doormat.

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    No I wouldn't.

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    It depends really....

    I am in a bit of a tiff with my girlfriend at the moment. I always say sorry or let things slide as she has a lot of things she is suffering with at the moment. The one time I stood up for myself and haven't apologised......I haven't heard from her in nearly a week!!

    I am finally starting to learn not to be a door mat, it's kind of empowering!

    In regards to my hubby though I never ever apologise for something I didn't do. We are 100% honest with each other all the time, so I would stick my ground there.

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    I will sometimes, I don't know the exact circumstances, and I wouldn't apologize repeatedly, but like recently I apologized, though I didn't feel I did anything wrong, I apologized for being unclear and for the misunderstanding.

    I guess I've also done the insincere, "I'm sorry, but...." lol. Not quite the same thing!

    Or the "I'm sorry you feeling XYZ, this is what I meant/said/happened/intended etc"

    But I wouldn't specifically apologize for something I didn't do. I wouldn't say "I'm sorry I did XYZ" if I did not.
    Last edited by Boobycino; 07-04-2012 at 15:47.

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    I would never apologise for something I didn't do... If this is referring to your b/f then it all seems like way too much hard work before anything has even really begun iykwim

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    I don't apologize for anything I havn't done. Not even to keep the peace. I don't believe I should get the blame on anything especially ongoing if I hadn't done anything wrong.


 

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