Ok so this will seem a bit long winded but I would really like to hear some suggestions as to where I went wrong with breastfeeding my baby boy.
Breastfeeding to me is so important and there wasnt any question as to how I was going to feed my baby. I had a drug free perfect birth with skin to skin contact immediatly after birth where my baby fed for 2 hours. He attached well and I had no pain or any other issues.
He was gaining weight well at the start and was totally fed on demand. He slept well and was generally a settled baby.
At his 4 week check he was still gaining but not alot but my MCHN wasnt fazed as she was happy with his overall appearace ie alert etc. She is a long term breastfeeding advocate tandem feeding her 4 and 2 year old so I was happy with her advice. She told me to come back in 2 weeks just to check on him but told me she wouldnt be there I would be seeing another lady.
At that check up he had only gained 100g and this MCHN told me that this weight gain wasnt sufficient and I needed to think about topping him up.
I left there shattered but still determined to continue our breastfeeding journey. I went to my GP who gave me medication to boost my supply and was pumping after every feed to help things along.
I thought I was doing everything I could to help our journey along.
At the next check 2 weeks later my little boy had gained NOTHING! I was devastated to say the least. This new MCHN told me "you cant let him keep going this way, you need to top him up with formula. Your baby isnt content he is lethargic!!!"
I asked her whether I should give it to him in a syringe as I didnt want to give him a bottle and risk nipple confusion. She told me "no, he's 8 weeks now he wont forget how to nurse from the breast.
What a mistake!!! Within 2 days he was totally refusing to feed from me and I had to express and give him all feeds from the bottle.
This continued with top ups with formula for the next month until I was getting NOTHING from expressing!! So now at 4 months he is fully on formula and I hate everytime I put a bottle in his mouth coz I know its not what I wanted for my boy.
So where did I go wrong before giving him a bottle, why was he not gaining weight even being demand fed and having enough wet nappies etc? Its the most normal natural thing in the world so why couldnt i get it right?.
Sorry for the long post xxx