I have become a sahm for the first time this year. We have a nearly five year old and a 4 month old. With my first i went back to work at 12 weeks as i had no maternity leave entitlements and hubby wasn't working. I always made him promise that if we had another that I would be able to stay at home to look after the baby, as i feel that I missed out on so much....I worked full time until my second baby was born. During this time my hubby fleeted between jobs and only just got a stable job, he's been there six months.
He was home for many years, while he decided what he would do for employment....a lot of those days he didn't have our son, who was in daycare. Yesterday he looked around the house and says "you're obviously not coping with the housework, everything's a mess and you haven't ironed my shirts"......
now, the whole time I've been at home has been spent recuperating from a dislocated symphysis pubis and later from a csection. I try my very best to do as much as I can during the day, which is hard when you've had no sleep and you're forever breast feeding....and of course lets not mention the fact that hubby gets home,puts his feet up and plays xbox till midnight, never once offering to help "because he works"
I was the main income earner for seven years, he never did any housework while he was homes those years, and he is the messiest person I've ever met. Unfortunately you do become blasé when you're constantly picking up after someone and I have let many a mess go because I would rather be with my baby.
How is it that he can accuse me of being messy??? I wash his clothes, fold them, put them away, clean the house as much as possible and take care of the kids...one of whom has therapy for speech and OT every week? When I say that I need help to pick up after his messes he says that millions of mothers do it around the world, why can't I? When I say that he didn't do anything AT ALL whrn he was home he says that's in the past, this is now. I am still contributing to the household income through my maternity leave, whilst while I was working he contributed nothing, as he figured out what he wanted to do. Sometimes I think I shouldn't complain because at least he is working now, and Icahn stay with my kids...does anyone else feel that being a sahm does not mean being your husband's personal maid? I am so mad at him right now, can you tell? I won't be ironing any shirts tonight, let me tell you!