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Last edited by ~Lost In The Fifties~; 06-08-2012 at 16:39. Reason: Edit
Well with all the issues u stated to even start to get the kids back shed have to stop drugs/drinking pretty much totally and if domestic violence is involved id suggest she may have to seperate from the abusive spouse and set up her own home for the children, if hes in jail it prob wont help especially if theyre "together but seperated by prison" . Hmm, if thier grandparents can't take them you can apply for kinship care but youd need ur sister to write a letter or statement saying she'd prefer them with you than foster care, even though she doesn't have custody she is still their legal parent and most definately has a say if they go into family or system care. We are concerned about my SIL her house is apparently a complete pigsty and neither her or her partner mop, vaccum or clean anything, they have one daughter and are due with another later this yr, Im wondering how it will go when the midwife visits their home after their hospital stay, if they saw 2 kids in that filth Im pretty sure theyd get the kids removed quick smart, lets just hope if that happens grandma takes them we don't have the space to take on 2 more children.
Could u start by talking to the Grandparents? Are they happy with the current situation? It seems sad that the children be separated from each other but at least they are in a safe place. U could also speak to the DOCS case worker just to figure out if it is a possibility. Good on u for caring so much and being such a loving Aunty! Hopefully whatever the outcome, these children will be in the best place for them and that the government bodies involved will act in their best interest. Xo
You need to speak to the docs case worker.
Docs will usually look for kin before placing children with foster carers. you should call DOCs directly and ask them about how to go about caring for the children. Docs will assess the best place. If u are willing and able to have the three of them together in your care Docs would look upon that favorably.
good luck and good on you
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Great advice so far. Speak to the grandparents first and see how they feel, and then speak to the social worker who is in charge of their case.
You can be granted kinship care, and they will Favour this over foster care. But it isn't as easy as it sounds. My sisters nephew is in foster care as they only just found out she exists and she is one! They have sought kinship care and so far it has been over 6 months and even though they were officially granted kinship care, she is still not in their care! It's a long slow frustrating process!
Good luck and how wonderful of you to be doing this for those kids! They are lucky to have you in their lives!
Im sorry to hear about your sil, i hope it all works out for the best.
In regards to them being separated, they have been for a while my oldest niece (11) has been with my grandma since she was 7, her mother lost her license and couldn't drive her to school so she asked my grandma to look after her until she got it back but she just never went back to them.
Thank you for your kind words
The eldest child has been placed with my grandmother permanently.
I will be seeing the case worker later this week to discuss options.
Thank you for you information!
Thank you for your advice and kind words.
I have just been informed that the grandmother that currently is looking after the younger children has been put into hospital as she is having a melt down, the stress is getting too much for them.
Last edited by ~Lost In The Fifties~; 04-04-2012 at 14:30. Reason: add.
Bump for the night crew!
i had kinship care of my cousins child for a year, we did it to get her out of foster care.
Speak to the Docs case worker...make sure you know what you can offer (keep all 3 together) etc. They will do assessments etc and then determine the best case for the kids.
If the parents are on your side, it will make it easier.
We were given a hard time by the case worker...but we did eventually get her into our custody. It was so worthwhile ...and they are now back together and doing really well (but she was not in the same place as your sister).
If you and your DH really want this...push it. Have a good plan for the kids, make sure you have room available for them. Ask if it is possible to start with weekend visits (put it forward as respite for the grandparents) and see how it goes.
~Lost In The Fifties~ (13-04-2012)
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