I just wanted to post a positive experiencd for all those parents who are struggling with the notion of putting their kids into day care.
We have no family here and so DD has never spent any time away from me, not even a few hours.... I had an awful daycare experience when she was 13 months old and decided never again... However i found a FDC that i felt ok about trying her in. At the time of deciding to put her in i had just had a newborn, he is now 6 mo.
So in Feb she started 1 day a week, she cried and i cried, the next week she cried a little less and the week after that she started going two days and hardly cried at all. 8 weeks on she claps her hands when i pull up at FDC house, she runs in and give the carer a big hug and waves me away, blowing kisses and laughing! ( this upset me too - @ 19 mo she doesnt need me like she used to!) she is so excited and when i collect her in the evening she is beaming, gives carer lots of cuddles and kisses leaving!
So my point of this thread is if my DD can do it anyone can! All the awful feelings i battled with about putting her in day care have been buried. She is learning so much, the interaction with other kids has worked wonders for her development, by being disciplined by her carer she listens to me more. FDC rocks!