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    Default Great Confidence

    Who has it?
    Who doesn't?
    Has it changed over the years?
    What makes you so confident or not so confident?
    Do you ever fake confidence?
    Does it help?

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    Overall I feel I'm quite confident, though I have days where I just don't feel it, lol.
    No idea what makes me confident, but I think being my own person is a big thing. When I stood up for myself and my family against my parents - that was a massive confidence boost. Having made so many friends through DDs kindy where they all genuinely want to know me, and actually care, that's a bit of a confidence boost. When DF talks to people about our future plans, that's a massive confidence boost. Studying, loving who I am, seeing the gorgeous people my two girls are growing into.

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    Everyone tells me I am extremely confident, I have always been outgoing, loved public speaking and drama at school and still do auctioneering occasionally , I'm always asked to do toasts/speeches at weddings/functions

    I definitely think as you get older you get more confident, the older I get the less I care about what anyone thinks!

    I'm not sure if it's something my parents did or not , my brother is the same as me but my sister is the quiet one ( people say its because she couldn't compete with the 2 of us!)
    Dad was very big on praise, everyone is good at something speeches as we were growing up plus they were our biggest supporters at sport/drama and school stuff etc

    I always say to my nieces when they need help with public speaking etc - what's the worst thing that can happen? You forget a line/word who cares, most of the people watching are too envious that they do not have the courage to get up and do it !

    OP - do you think you need to be more confident?

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    I think maybe it's a natural trait. I've always been confident in approaching others.

    In work situations I kind of 'fake' it though. I don't really feel like networking at every conference I go to, but I 'fake it till I make it' and have made some very valuable connections that way. It definitely works. A big smile and a firm handshake work wonders!

    As I get older I get better at reading others - I can fit in pretty much anywhere now, just depends whether I feel like it as to whether I'll make the effort or not

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    Bump for the morning ladies = )

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    I think I have become more confident with age ( I'm mid 30's)

    I know who I am and what I want out of life... In comparison to in my 20's I was "lost" in a marriage that I gave myself to and had to find myself when it all fell apart! It was the best thing that ever happened to me!

    I think when one is sure about their direction in life and are happy with themselves there is a natural confidence there that a person probably doesn't realise they have!

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    Since becoming a mum.... No, let me rephrase that. Since being diagnosed with PND, I feel so much more stronger and confident as a person. PND has been an absolute blessing for me. I know who I am as a person, I know which direction I'd like to head and I'm happy with myself. I think I am confident but lately I've really been questioning it. I can feel my crap self esteem creeping up on me. Last night I started a course and I felt like a little girl in a classroom. I felt... Tiny and like I wasn't good enough. It was Weird.

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    Very little self confidence
    Hate myself, always have
    Fake it often
    Has definitely improved with age
    I am a very confident parent. Having my 2 perfect angels has helped me a lot because I'm finally good at something.
    I still suck at every other aspect of my life though.

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    Dont be so hard on yourself Dark Cherry, i think even the most confident person would feel a bit out of their depth when starting something new, i find i set my heart and sights on something, then follow through and find myself thinking holy crap i cant do this, im not worthy or something along those lines... it takes a bit of time to adjust to a new situation, figure everyone out and where everyones at before we feel like we can ' fit in' and power on.

    Does any of that make sense?

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    I'm great at faking it!
    I have confidence with a lot of things but it comes and goes with regards to my looks. But i 'spose that's a pretty common theme among women now isn't it?

    I think faking it helps but i wouldn't even call it faking it in some cases. I learned long ago that most people aren't nearly as focussed on how we come across as we ourselves are- people are worried more about themselves. And the solution for me was to change my focus from myself to others. So when i would interact with people it would be more about making the other person feel comfortable and ok about themselves. I found that helped me immensely in terms of feeling more confident in general. I just stopped worrying about whatever it was that was making me feel lousy about myself after that

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