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    I think as they get older, they (and mum & dad) get used to the fact that different places = different rules. I wouldn't expect each undividual teacher to call me when he needs to be disciplined. Same goes for my friends, their house, their rules. I must admit, my friends have similar morals to me so I don't need to worry at all about him being shamed/smacked/shrieked at, it could be a different story if I left him with someone who did these things to children.

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    house rules apply...never called to ask a parent if i could reprimand a child...it all happens fast.

    i only send DS to people i am close enough to to have seen them parenting and know we have similar styles.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smileygirl View Post
    house rules apply...never called to ask a parent if i could reprimand a child...it all happens fast.

    i only send DS to people i am close enough to to have seen them parenting and know we have similar styles.
    Completely Agree.

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    [QUOTE=smileygirl;

    i only send DS to people i am close enough to to have seen them parenting and know we have similar styles.[/QUOTE]
    I'm the same, my BIL makes a point of always saying my house my rules ( he smacks and yells and swears) and as much as DS loves his aunty and cousins I will never ever leave him there!

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    IMO, they need to learn that rules are not uniform to each and every location or situation, and that some places will have different rules they need to follow. Life is like that for us, so why not teach kids the same thing from an early age?

    If DD visits someone, I expect they'll deal with her appropriately. That doesn't mean smack her, but I sure and hell expect they'll tell her off, and maybe even send her to a corner or something if she got that bad (though I'd honestly be shocked if she was ever that bad... she's really well behaved for anyone but me... lol). I would probably raise an eyebrow if anyone contacted me to ask permission to tell her off... if I trust her in your care without me around, I trust that you'll make good enough judgemental calls about discipline too.

    Kids in my care get told off if they're misbehaving. I'm actually quite gentle, but I let them know it's not on, and that there will be consequences if they continue (generally that's just calling their parents to pick them up).

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    Follow the rules of the house your in . We are quite strict and the houses dss stays at are generally a lot more lax then us . So we know he's ok. What about if the parents are present and their kid is been a **** and doing nothing?

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    I am very old fashioned.

    My house, my rules I don't have a problem telling any child at my house what the rules are. If they are not happy to follow those rules than they can go home. I would never smack someone else child. I would remove them from a situation if I felt some was going to get hurt. They would be made to play somewhere else or sit with me for a bit.

    As for my kids i would expect the same. If they are at someone else house i expect them to follow their rules. I would be very upset if they did not speak to my child if they were misbehaving but just left it until I picked them up. After all how can they follow a rule if they don't know it exists...

    As for if they were misbehaving while I was there I would expect to be told so I could deal with it. Just as I would give any other parent the respect and do the same.
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    I use the 'we don't ...... here' a lot, if they are misbehaving beyond that I will call their parents to pick them up after I've warned them.

    I would expect others to do the same.

    I'm not okay with other people putting my child in time out, yelling at them or humiliating them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    I use the 'we don't ...... here' a lot, if they are misbehaving beyond that I will call their parents to pick them up after I've warned them.

    I would expect others to do the same.

    I'm not okay with other people putting my child in time out, yelling at them or humiliating them.
    This.

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