This is gonna be a contentious one, if it even survives and is not removed LOL! I have at times been accused of being cynical, cold and heartless, and that is by my own mother! I prefer the term realist, but that is open to debate. My question is this. Whilst on BH I have noticed that some of the questions asked by other posters need some real answers. There are questions about miscarriages, still births, medical difficulties etc, some are in fact quite harrowing. However- when these questions are posted, I have noticed a lot of replies with a similar content, namely I have nothing to add to this conversation, I have never been in your situation, but hugs, or something similar. Now personally, I find this irritating. These people are asking for genuine advice, or experience from others in a similar situation, and instead get (maybe) meaningless platitudes, when advice is being desperately sought. I am all for being supportive to your fellow man, but should it not be appropriate, support, or am I just shriveled up and dead inside?!