I have googled this recently and found that it is a common and reoccuring theme for girls around 5-7 to be emotionally driven to outbursts. However the advice is to talk things through.. This does not work in our circumstance as my DD does not open up. Her answer for most things from school to friends to attempting to talk through why she is so upset results in the same answer - "I dont know or I dont remember".
Other common ideas are to support her through her emotional outbursts... But I find this difficult when the outbursts are numerous times a day, over tiny matters. With lengthy, loud, cranky, sometimes hysterical, rude remarks and reactions. My 2.5 yr olds outbursts are nearly as impressive or over the top. Sending her to her room results in 'Im sorry mummy I wont do it any more... I promise.' Sticking to my guns in this case results in louder crys, sobs and whining. I constantly feel like I am always grumpy or upset at her as these varying outbursts/tantrums are a regular part of our day both before and after school. However this kind of behaviour goes unseen during school hours....?!
I am a single mother of 2 beautiful busy girls, 6.5 and 2.5. Both to different fathers. Both of whom have little to do with their daughters. However my youngest does regularly see her Aunty on her fathers side and her other grandparents on occasion, where my eldest doesnt see her father really at alll, 1 -2 times a year at most.
The times that my youngest is with the other sides family, I take my eldest DD out for lunch, a movie, bowling or a roadtrip to visit friends, taking the time to do something that is special for her too. So that she is not missing out.
My eldest DD does not have a good relationship with her father as she knows how to push his buttons and he cannot cope with her lively and cunning nature. Plus he regularly fights with his current partner in front of her. So I no longer pursue contact at his residence.
Her family daycare mother (20+ years experince) has told me from the age she was three that she is a boundary pusher and would benefit from consistent routine and discipline (and god help the man that marries this strong willed, independant minded little lady in the coming years, he will need a shed! Lol). Which I have maintained and has celarly been helpful and insightful.
She is a beautiful, bright, well mannered, well behaved, capable and caring normal healthy and for the most part happy 6 yr old girl. That right now is constantly is in tears... I really dont know how to handle her being so emotionally high strung and find myself losing patience with her by the end of the day and getting upset myself...
Any advice or outside perspective would be great!!