I recently joined my local gym as they have a child minding room with 3 nice old ladies and lots of toys.
I have never left DS (nearly 1) with anyone other than my parents (whom he loves) but it never crossed my mind that this would be a big deal for him.
I think I've only been 4 times so far and each time I kept to a short 20min run and then would quickly go back to DS because he gets so upset. The first day the ladies actually had to call me back because he was such a blubbering mess. He improves a BIT each time but it's hard to imagine him being fine with it like all the other bubs in the room.
I stay with him for 5-10mins before and after to sort of ease him in and out of the environment and show him that he can have fun while I go work out. The carers pretty much hold him the whole time I'm gone as he would be even worse if just left on the ground!
Is this an unavoidable stage to go through with any child (teaching them that you come back if you need to leave somewhere) or should it be avoided???