I've been here a long time and yes BH has a bad side, and every few months I get annoyed, have a few weeks break and come back feeling better. The main reason I still log on is my TTC after M/C group and while I peruse I get a bit post happy
I have to say though I agree with Sass's point that some members consistently post inflammatory, mean things and people tire of trying to politely reply and get fed up after a while and just speak their mind. Honestly I feel zero sympathy for those people, if you are going to be a jerk to people expect people to comment on you being a jerk.... and I'm NOT talking about you OP just want to make that clear.
The ones I feel sorriest for are the mods. They give their time for free and will often spend hours sifting though 15 pages of rubbish bc people can't say what's on their mind in a nice way.
My tolerance seriously waned during pregnancy ive found I come less. Read less. Anything that annoys me I move on. I contemplated saying something, but im around... Juat much less active.
And maybe after 15,000 posts ive run out of things to say. Lol
There is SO much good though ive gotten from bubhub. Im so grateful for the women ive connected with and met.
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After been on the receiving end of some awful nasty comments on a rant thread I can totally see why you would be upset - I was! But now I have decided to come on here to support where I can and ignore anything that is nasty or aggressive. It's sad that people come on here just to stir or for the sake of upsetting people.
Good luck whatever you decide to do!
People say insensitive stuff without really considering how other people feel I guess, being a forum it's like I can say what I really think without upsetting people, but that's not true. I know I posted in a pro-controlled crying thread yesterday about how I didn't like controlled crying... which was a bit rude really, and I'm sorry dark cherry I know it upset you. Thing is, I know my brother and SIL will be using controlled crying with their little one, and it doesn't bother me at all. That's who they are and what will work for them and I would never "have a go" at them for it. I guess on here I can just stick my opinion down and not think about the fact it might get to someone because I can't see that someone.
I'm guilty of doing what you're doing right now too, I left my July mum's facebook group because someone had a go at the way I did something and it ****ed me off so I left. Sometimes we just need a break.
refer to my thread on Facebook groups, completely understand, it must be something in the water lately
Unfortunately, like with all things it's a few rotten apples that ruin it for all. These people know who they are, they know they are being rude, insensitive and arrogant, yet they continue. I take great pleasure in the knowledge, that whilst i must tolerate them on BH, in real life they would not even register on my radar. The 'mean girls' think they are alot more important than they actually are, so don't give them the power. I hope you decide to stay.
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