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    wow, i am not alone out there. I **know** i am different. I spent years trying to be that person I'm not... now no more. There are very few if any ppl who have my interests in classical music, the paranormal, etc. I find ppl draining too...

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    Yes!!!!
    I avoid people because if it. I deleted my facebook because I felt everyone seemed fake. Most of the "friends" that I had on there I hadn't seen in years and had no plans to ever see them IRL.
    There are only a small number of people (less than 5) that I let in. I have one best friend and aquaintances but the only people I feel 100% comfortable around are DH and DS.
    Being in a room full of people, socialising, always feels awkward for me.
    And I'm completely happy this way! I don't want or need anyone else in my life. I'm older now, I know how hard I am on myself when it comes to my internal dialogue.. so I really don't bother with people anymore as I just end up withdrawing from the friendship anyway, due to not feeling comfortable....
    But when I meet people I actually do click with, I'm a loyal friend for life.
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    Yep.

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    I've been told I appear to try hard to fit in (does that make me a try hard? Lol) but I don't feel like I'm different, really. I feel like I fit in. But maybe I stick out like a sore thumb and I'm ignorant to the fact that I don't belong? LOL.
    Maybe that's why I'm such a loser???

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    Quote Originally Posted by DiamondEyes View Post
    Its nice to know im not alone.

    I have friends in my life whom i really really care about, but its difficult for me to not have panic attacks about hanging out, its like i put on this whole different face so i dont make it awkward. Afterwards im exhausted because i hafto be this version of myself that ive learnt to be in order to have friends, and its really hard to keep up.

    Growing up when i would have sleepovers, by the next day i would become non verbal and when my friend left id feel so much relief. Like i just couldnt wait for them to leave...

    I like the idea of being social, but making it happen is hard and terrifying at the same time, so i try to avoid it, even tho i really do care about the people in my life.

    Oddball much?
    Well if you're an oddball, that makes two of us!
    My heart pounds, even when I catch up with my best friend of over 10 years! After the first 15 minutes or so I calm down, but I think I'll always be this way. Wine helps! lol..

    It can be utterly depressing and exhausting feeling like the odd one out
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    I used to feel like that but not anymore. I came to the conclusion that I had social anxiety which began in my teens. Once I accepted my oddities/differences it became easier to see other peoples as well and then my barriers dropped and I have become comfortable and my friendships are more open and plentiful. Funnily enough people seem to appreciate my differences and have been happy to celebrate them with me (if that makes sense).

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    Yep I totally relate. I just got home from a mums group party for all our littlies 2nd birthdays. I think I spoke 5 words the whole time. Didn't help that noone touched the food I bought (everyone else's got eaten) and I misread a text saying we were no longer doing a lucky dip present thing and instead had to get a small gift for each child, so I only turned up with one present

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    Yeah i can relate, what jade24 wrote i agree
    gotta say it really sucks most of the time!
    thank god for Bubhub! <3

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    Yep, thats me in a nutshell, thankgod I'm not the only one, although if we were all in the same room together all feeling socially awkward, I'd still feel like I was the ONLY one acting and feeling this way. DH is the only person to see the true me, farts and all, I don't even let my guard down with my family.

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    Sounds like me too


 

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