I have a 3yr old daughter, a 2yr old son and a 3mth old baby girl. HUsband is working and sometimes unable to make it home for bedtime. My current routine is 5pm - sit older 2 kids down in high chairs for dinner while I give the youngest a bath. Then pop her in her bouncer in front of the bathroom door while I give the older 2 a bath. By this time, it would be 7pm.Older 2 kids play for a bit while watching snippets of cartoons on tv while I feed the youngest her milk. At 7.30pm, I pop the older 2 into their sleeping bags. My 3yr old kisses me goodnight and then I lay her down in her cot in her own room.my youngest will have fallen asleep in her bouncer now so I pick her up, swaddle her and put her down in her cot. now my 2yr old still needs a bottle of milk every night. This is where my problem lies - I need to lay beside him outside of the cot and he needs to hold my hand while he drinks his milk.then when he is done, he will still hold my hand while he tosses around and plays in bed till he falls asleep. This takes close to about 1.5hrs every night. Thankfully, my baby seldom cries during this time and also my 3yr old is able to self soothe most nights by herself. I really need help because I need my 2yr old to be able to sleep by himself so that I can be available to the other kids in case they start to cry. I also would like to use this time to clean up. Since the kids take priority over everything else, dishes and laundry get piled up and I only get around to doing them after they have gone to bed. I even have given up on 'me' time. I just need him to fall asleep on his own. I've tried taking my hand away and he starts being panicky and holds it really tight. I can only let go when he is in very deep,sleep.