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    Default My 3 year old is driving me insane

    My 3 year old just does naughty little stuff all the time and i'm going crazy all i do all day is clean up whatever naughty thing shes done and while i'm doing that she is onto the next naughty thing.

    This morning for example i changed DD2's nappy and it was pooey so i had to go downstairs to the laundry to rinse it out and put it in the nappy bucket i come back to find DD1 has given DD2 a banana muffin from the container on the bench when i told her not to has taken my white board off the fridge put it on the rubbish bin poured water all over it and then splashed it all around with the whiteboard eraser. she also at some stage had poured water all over the kitchen bench.

    I know it doesn't seem like a big deal but this is just one thing the other day she got her sister squeezy yoghurt and squeezed it all over the floor and painted in it until i got back from the toilet (i was gone like 2 minutes)

    I've tried everything i don't smack anymore because it never worked i've tried time outs but she actually enjoys sitting there doing nothing because she knows i'm angry. putting her in her bed she just lays there and sings, taking thing off her she says she doesn't care, telling her we won't go to park/friends house etc and nothing makes any difference. i hope i'm not alone with a horror child and i really really hope it just a stage and she will snap out of it soon

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    Hugs. While its not my child(he has his feral moments) i am dealing with something very similar from a 3yr old and my patience is wearing very thin. The only discipline i can do is send him to his room and take away his toy priviliages but that goes down the drain when his mum steps in when she feels like it.

    It will get better. Hugs.

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    they do outgrow this and ds was doing this at 2.5-3ish and his now heading towards 4 and its getting better. I use "its making mummy sad" and that helps sometimes, ds is very sensitive though. Hope she grows out of it soon

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    Your child sounds like she just wants your attention. She may also just be trying to establish boundaries. Do u set aside some special one on one time with her? She needs loads of praise when she is doing the right thing. Another form of consequence is removing favourite toys or teddies. What is the age difference between the girls?

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    I do try and do something special with her each day while her sister is sleeping we do cooking, play her special card games or games with smaller parts that her sister tries to eat etc. we read books etc maybe i should try and get their granmother to look after DD2 once a week for a few hours and spend some special time with DD1.

    They are 20months apart and DD2 has just started fighting back when they are playing so not sure if that has something to do with it because DD2 usually get wants she wants because she is so rough and their dad doesn't realise how rough DD2 has got and DD1 gets in trouble for hurting DD2 (sorry if that doesn't make sense) i try and make sure DD1 doesn't get picked on and if she has something first she gets it back but its really hard when i am doing things in another room.

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    When u spend time with her I would say things like 'I love this special time I have with you.' ' It makes mummy so happy when you are a listening girl.' etc that way when u tell her you are disappointed in her particular behaviour it has a contrast.

    I think you also should establish behavioural expectations. So before leaving the room say ' I expect when I get back that you are still playing nicely and there is no mess...if this happens you will both get a stamp, sticker, jelly bean (I know loads of people hate food rewards, use whatever works for yours!)

    When she does the wrong thing like tip yoghurt in the floor, make sure she is involved in the cleaning up. That is a natural consequence.

    Oh dear whining coming from my dd got to go.

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    Lol sounds like my situation, times two! If you figure out a solution let me know...

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    I have no advice, my two and a half year old is the same.

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    My DD1 (3 as well) is the same. I tried time out, sticker charts, smack on the bum, you name it ive tried it. The only thing that has worked is taking away her toys and she earns them back with good behaviour. I left her with two toys to play with though but she knows that if she misbehaves they are removed. This is the only thing that has worked with her. I used to threaten removal of her toys all the time but now I have actually followed through with the threat she knows I have had enough of her being naughty. Maybe worth a go?

    I spoke to another mother she did this with her own children to the extent she took away everything including the light bulb in their bedrooms. And their behaviours changed quick smart (though her children were school aged).

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    Sometimes my two and a half year old is out of control and putting him on the naughty chair doesn't last very long at all... Soo, out comes the stroller which he can't get out of and he gets some time out time in there.. It is the only way I know where he is and what he is up to at all times :-)
    It works and keeps my blood pressure down lol
    Good luck!

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