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    Poor child who missed out

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    Do you know the ins and outs of the whole story? "The kid that got left out...what's he/she like? Is it possible this person has bullied the present giver and the present giver decided 'why on earth would I want to give him a present when he has been picking on me for months?'

    I ask because this happened in my class. A kid was bullied for weeks, the little brat hit/pushed and kicked this boy, turned his friends against him, parents got involved and it didn't get any better...he hated going to school because of it.

    Invitations were handed out to the boys party and the bully didnt get one.

    I see nothing wrong with this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hopefully2 View Post
    Bullying is not treated as a repetitive behaviour in any school I have taught at. It is simply being mean or violent to another student. We nip these things in the bud at the first instance not once it is repeated and out of control.
    That's good if you can catch it in the first instance before it becomes bullying. A child who has an outburst
    and it is a one off is not a bully because they were mean and violent, students who have a disagreement and call each other names are not bullies they are children who are learning how to get along. Labelling children as bullies can be hugely damaging - especially when they are not bullies. It is more than an isolated incident before it is bullying. The term is bandied around in schools and the media too often for when students may simply be having friendship issues or still learning how to get along with others and socialise.

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    the child who was left out is one of the quieter girls...def not a bully. A bit more has come out today, seems the girl who got captain on a bit of a power trip. The other girl also applied and ever since it got announced, the captain was sort of rubbing her nose in it that she didn't get it. This last thing was final straw.

    Head teacher is getting involved...parents called in etc

    it'll be settled next term i guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    That's good if you can catch it in the first instance before it becomes bullying. A child who has an outburst
    and it is a one off is not a bully because they were mean and violent, students who have a disagreement and call each other names are not bullies they are children who are learning how to get along. Labelling children as bullies can be hugely damaging - especially when they are not bullies. It is more than an isolated incident before it is bullying. The term is bandied around in schools and the media too often for when students may simply be having friendship issues or still learning how to get along with others and socialise.
    We never brand children as bullies we just discuss that the incident is considered bullying behaviour. We obviously distinguish between tiffs, stand over tactics and aggression or in this case exclusion. Each case is judged on its own context. We do not wait for it to happen often before parents are consulted and children are spoken to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hopefully2 View Post
    We never brand children as bullies we just discuss that the incident is considered bullying behaviour. We obviously distinguish between tiffs, stand over tactics and aggression or in this case exclusion. Each case is judged on its own context. We do not wait for it to happen often before parents are consulted and children are spoken to.
    I agree with you, which is exactly why bullying is specifically characterised by it's repetitive nature otherwise it is considered to be 'displaying bullying behaviour'.

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    It's not nice at all, whether it's bullying or not. Imagine how the kid feels

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    That is just awful and whether it is actually defined as bullying according to school policy, it is the behaviour of a child that is a bully.

    She is lucky I have no say over her behaviour otherwise she would no longer be junior school captain. I'd be so embarrassed if a child of mine ever did something like that. If they did and the school did not do something about it, I would surely do something about it at home.

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    I definately think that is bullying especially because it was a premeditated act not spontanous.


 

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