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    Default is this bullying?

    this is happened at school today.

    Girl came back from holidays..bought every child in the class a present, excluding 1. She handed out the presents in class...and made a big deal of not having one for the one child. They are in upper primary, there is 20 in the class.

    The girl who was on holidays...is the Junior School captain.

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    I think it is a form of bulling like having a party and saying everyone can come but not you, you can't come.

    That poor kid!

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    The not buying something for one person not so much, maybe more passive aggressive behavior

    But...

    The making a big deal about not getting them anything, Yes, I would say that is bullying, it's a bit concerning her position in the school, I would definatly be bringing this up with at least the teacher.
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    it will be bought up...neither child was mine (thank goodness), my child not in that year group.

    my rule with my son is that if he gets something or invites people...it is either less than half the class or the whole class. I hate the idea of someone being excluded that way so will make sure we don't do it to anyone else.

    It will be interesting to see how it plays out...i think there should be consequences but not sure what.

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    It's bullying by exclusion and not on! I don't understand how a parent could condone that behaviour?

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    As an isolated incident it is not bullying. If it is part of a series of incidents it is bullying. Bullying by excluding others is nasty and if I were the teacher I would certainly be questioning the child as to why 1 class member had not only been excluded but had been in such a public fashion.

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    what is the schools current policy on bullying?

    I think it's a hard one to gauge, because it's sort of indirect bullying (if that makes any sense)

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    As an isolated incident it is not bullying. If it is part of a series of incidents it is bullying. Bullying by excluding others is nasty and if I were the teacher I would certainly be questioning the child as to why 1 class member had not only been excluded but had been in such a public fashion.
    Agreed. One incident is not bullying.

    As a teacher I don't let kids hand out birthday invites or presents in such a fashion during class. I figure that's a personal thing to be done on their own time. Therefore responsibility lies with parents and the child if exclusions are made. In saying that I would counsel a student who felt left out or was excluded. It's not the teachers fault, they didn't buy the presents. It lies with the parents who allowed that to happen. It's very rude to exclude just one child in the class.

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    Plain as day it's bullying and this kid will be feeling very rejected. It's absolutely not on and and clearly intentional. If my child had forgotten a present then none would get handed out.

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    Yeah, I do agree as a one off it isn't bullying...it's freakin' mean though!

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