Not sure where else to post, so hoping this is a good spot... Its in regards to my in-laws and the way I want to parent my children.
So... birthdays, easter, christmas, mothers day etc. has always been about my husbands family... like for me it was always about my family. Now we have our own family my in0laws dont seem to understand why we ditch them. I have a big rule in my home "we dont go out on school nights/Arvos". This doesnt suit them, they like to do things on a sunday night... and we live an hour away from them.
My kids have school and my husband and I have work... we dont have the time to do things on sundays. Now we know Christmas and Easter have a public holiday the next day, but we have a different belief system on how to spend easter... we are not christian. We do not want our children attending the 'religious' festivities, and would much prefer to have them do what we want with our traditions.
My in-laws think I am dragging my husband away, which it sounds like I am, but its not all about me. My husband wont allow my kids in their house for certain medical reasons (which I am happy to ignore), and so it makes me look bad because we dont invite them over... they are only available sunday afternoons from 3.30pm... which is the red zone for me.
Am I horrible? Or is it time for my in-laws to understand we have a different family system? ALSO if we look at his family, it would seem his father ditched his family for his wife. Is it so bad?