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    Default Trying to learn and grow but...

    I'm sick if trying to be an adult, understand and rectify my flaws only to have dp and his family pretend as though there us nothing wrong with any of them.

    I've been called some heinous names by dp, mil and fil.

    Just because I'm not a carbon copy of his family, i have my own family behaviors and values I gave grown up with does not make me a bad person.

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    I think I know how you feel.

    I mean I'm only 20 right now, first time mum and all that. I've had to grow up, so to speak, in less than 2 years. I went from living at home to getting pregnant to moving out to getting engaged to married in that time space and I'm expected to be this perfect person, this perfect housewife.

    DF and his family have different values and have grown up a different way. It's my right to feel how I feel and act and believe what I want. Except he won't understand that..

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    This is my feelings with my mother. Even though I'm 28, living with DP, have 2 children blah blah blah, she refuses to treat me like an adult, accept I have my own opinion and am my own person.

    She has also called me all names under the sun and been extremely un-supportive.

    Hugs. I have no advice. But I can relate and wish better days for you.

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    I have the same problem with my own mother too! Except on top of not accepting me as me, she acts as if she's the mother to my own son. It's like, beyond smothering.

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    Quote Originally Posted by donniesweet View Post
    I have the same problem with my own mother too! Except on top of not accepting me as me, she acts as if she's the mother to my own son. It's like, beyond smothering.

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    Mine does this too. Even calling herself Mummy when talking to DD...

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    Isn't the point of a partner to make us feel loved, even though we aren't perfect or don't see things exactly the same way? In laws or parents are one thing (can't choose them, unfortunately) but if you have chosen someone as your partner, you have seen their flaws and decided you love them anyway. Doesn't mean we can't help each other be the best person we can be, but it does mean you should never be called heinous names I'm sorry you're feeling that way.

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