I'm going through a million problems at the moment...
Partner and I live in a shared house. The rent is extremely cheap. The house is horrible and dirty, both of us want to move out as soon as possible, specially now that I'm pregnant.
I got pregnant while i was in between jobs, its been difficult to find a new job considering I will leave in 6 months.
Partner got fired very recently from a stable job.
I'm Australian, though I lived most of my life overseas and have only very recently moved back here. My family does not live in Oz and I do not have much of a support system.
So as you can see life is hard for us.
MIL offered us to live with her without paying any rent or bills.
I do not want to live with my MIL when I'm a new mum! I do not want her teaching me what to do, telling me what to do, getting into any of my business. Having my first baby is something so precious to me.. I want to raise him/her on my own, make my own mistakes, figure things outs on my own.. that wont happen with my MIL in the middle.
I've also become an irrational hormonal lady, this pregnancy has been horrible. I do not want to have my crying fits in my MIL's house.
Another point is: I'm in the process of getting my license, I do not have a car. MIL lives in a small city where there isn't much public transport. I would be even more isolated from the world if we were to move there.
My partner is angry and does not understand why I do not want to live with his family. He is offended and doesn't get why I wouldn't want his mum to help me with the baby, he doesn't get it.. at all!
He says i am being selfish, only thinking about myself - only worrying about myself instead of focusing on the fact that this may help us buy a house in the near future.
I am extremely depressed. I know living in someone elses house (lets face it, things are diffferent when you arent in the privacy of your home) just makes things even worse for me.
He doesn't understand why I dont want his mum to help me and he is quite hurt and resentful of it.
And of course, he will not leave that house for at least 2 years. So there goes my first pregnancy (with a MIL thats a food pusher.. you know, the type of women that make you eat and eat and get upset when you say no).. and there goes my first year with my baby on MY OWN as it should be.. I'M the mum!
if you were in my shoes, how would you make him understand why I dont want to move into his mothers house? agh... I wish he would understand but he doesn't, he's just calling me selfish.
I'm not selfish, i'm depressed, alone and in a horrible place.. in need of desperate help...