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    I am 36+1 and today had some brown/pink CM and some uncomfortable contractions. I rang the maternity ward just to see what they thought - never lost my mucus plug with ds or even had waters break, both occurred when he was on his way out. So it's all a bit unknown to me.
    My DH has been away for a month so it wasn't because we DTD.
    They got me to come in and I was having some contractions but they were more worried bub was being quiet.
    My dr eventually came in and examined me, was happy and sent me home.

    I am glad everything is okay and I am home... But they made me feel really stupid for being there or concerned. The midwives were nice but quite patronising and I kind of felt like they thought I should know what was going on because this is my 2nd, this pregnancy has been so different though.

    It's really put me off calling them again if I'm worried. They really made me feel like I was being silly and over cautious, but they did get me to come in. Has this happened to anyone else?

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    Who cares what they think! If you have any concerns, don't hesitate to call because it's not worth any potential risk to you or bub. No offence to the middies, but they are there to help, not to pass judgement on a mum "who should know better"!

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    Sounds to me they didn't think you were silly, they checked you but still got you checked by a dr. Don't be too hard on yourself you did the right thing.


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    Who cares what they think! You did the right thing!!

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    they did that to me and I felt a little silly for being concerned about bubs not moving. They still checked me though and didnt let me leave until everything was checked. So even if you feel a little silly its better that than have something go wrong for not checking It was my second bub too.

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    I went in at 37 weeks because baby had stopped moving, they monitored me and bubs and said everything was fine and sent me on my way. They didnt make me feel silly but I felt silly for worrying and wasting their time.
    A week later baby hadn't moved all day and I told me DH but I said I didnt want to go in because it was probably fine like last time and I didnt want to look like a worrying weirdo. My husband made me go and within half an hour of arriving my baby was born via emergency c-section (she had undiagnosed IUGR and was in fetal distress.) Had I not gone in she probably would have been stillborn. So please ignore people making you feel silly, as long as you get a healthy bubs thats all that matters.

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    I went to the hospital at 39 weeks with some really uncomfortable pains and was made to feel like I was wasting their time because 'nothing was happening'. I came home and was violently ill and couldn't sit down due to being in so much pain so went back to the hospital. The midwife still insisted nothing was happening but agreed to let me stay. 24 hours later I had an emergency c section cos bubs was in distress. Don't let anyone make u feel stupid. Trust your instinct

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    I believe No ONE knows what is going on more then the pregnant mum...


    It is your body and your baby and over time you have learnt what is normal for you and baby and when it does not feel normal then it shoud be checked out...

    I had it happen with my last pregnancy and that was baby number 3 for me but it was just one midwife and it must have got the better of her because I had the head Dr of the ob section call me the next morning and insist I come back in to be examined be her personally.. Sure enough the pain I was having was one lonely gall stone that was giving me grief due to my polyhydramnios and being 37 weeks pregnant... But at least I was able to tell that midwife IF AS NOT IN MY HEAD!

    Trust yourself

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    I was at the hospital about 6 times from 28 weeks (when i had threatened prem labour) with my 3rd pregnancy as my previous labour had only taken 45 minutes after weeks of BHs so didn't want to get caught out and have bub at home. it got to be a bit of a joke with the midwives but they still always checked me out each time. I ended up having my DS at 39 weeks in the back of an ambulance... an hour after the midwife in charge had sent me home..

    Pays to get things checkout out regardless of how many times you've been there or how many bubs youve had.

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    First birth for SIL at age 19 and she wanted to go to hospital after 2 hours of contractions at home. I called the midwives for her and they literally told me not to be stupid and that there is no way at that age and first birth would it be time to come in. But if we have to then come in - with a big sigh.
    I was mortified but so glad that I made the call for her. When we got there she was 7 cms dilated and her son was born an hour later! She ended up in surgery with 2nd degree tears. If we had of stayed home she could have died! Trust yourself. I believe your body lets you know whats happening. Sometimes just not loud enough to get over the voices of others.


 

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