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    Default Have you maintained a good relationship with your children's father?

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    Yes, EXP and i co-parent wonderfully.
    When we first split up things were a little difficult, he found it hard to come to terms with the relationship ending but after a few months our relationship improved. He has the boys every 2nd weekend, and has always paid child support. I honestly believe that the main reason we are able to co-parent so well is because she don't involve our selves in each others lives, we have strict routine when it comes to visitation, so that we are not having to interfere in each others schedules. Of course if he or I can't have the kids or I need them a weekend he is meant to have them, we let each other know in advance and reschedule a new date and time.
    I think alot of seprated parents don't get along is because either or both parents are holding resent, jealousey and bitterness, once you are able to get past all of that and focus on gaining a civil relationship for the sake of your children things get much easier.

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    in 06 i got pregnant after a 1 night stand with a mate of mine. coz we were mates, nothing was ever weird. we would see other people and befriend each others partners then when our daughter was a few months off turning 5, he asked me out. he treats my son (who he is not the father of) fairly and equally. now we r expecting our 2nd baby together, this time as a 2some. other than him being in jail for a stupid mistake he made in 2010, things r great and always had been while we were not together

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    HELL NO!!

    I would have liked to seeing as though we have been through so much together but when he found out i was moving on and just TALKING to another guy well... i was the biggest ***** out wasnt i (and that is putting his words oh so nicely). For a month i was called every name under the sun, told my son could take me to school as show and tell and tell everyone what a s**T is, told he 'wouldnt **** on me even if i was on fire', 'no one will ever want me for anything other than a root' etc etc im sure everyone gets the picture.

    I nearly reached a nervous breakdown before changing my phone number and only communicating through his mother (which she wasnt fazed by his behaviour)

    We have care arrangements through a parenting plan. I was told to give him my number as he wanted to 'call DS every wednesday night'. That happened 3 weeks ago and only 1 phone call has been made to DS. The rest is abuse because apparently my bf has a problem and im a 'c**t of a thing' for moving out of my parents house and standing on my own two feet.

    im crossing all fingers and toes that it improves over time... for my sons sake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Milktini View Post
    Yes, EXP and i co-parent wonderfully.
    When we first split up things were a little difficult, he found it hard to come to terms with the relationship ending but after a few months our relationship improved. He has the boys every 2nd weekend, and has always paid child support. I honestly believe that the main reason we are able to co-parent so well is because she don't involve our selves in each others lives, we have strict routine when it comes to visitation, so that we are not having to interfere in each others schedules. Of course if he or I can't have the kids or I need them a weekend he is meant to have them, we let each other know in advance and reschedule a new date and time.
    I think alot of seprated parents don't get along is because either or both parents are holding resent, jealousey and bitterness, once you are able to get past all of that and focus on gaining a civil relationship for the sake of your children things get much easier.
    Quote Originally Posted by Dragonia View Post
    in 06 i got pregnant after a 1 night stand with a mate of mine. coz we were mates, nothing was ever weird. we would see other people and befriend each others partners then when our daughter was a few months off turning 5, he asked me out. he treats my son (who he is not the father of) fairly and equally. now we r expecting our 2nd baby together, this time as a 2some. other than him being in jail for a stupid mistake he made in 2010, things r great and always had been while we were not together
    I am sooooo envious of you both

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    For the most part, and I left my ex due to DV (mainly emotional, but a small amount of physical).

    From about two years after we separated, he started taking an active interest in the children and is now a good father. (When we were together he pretty much ignored and avoided them.) We generally keep discussions with regards to the children and their interests, and that works out fairly well.

    Occasionally, one of us will make comments about or try to meddle in the other's life - and that is unwelcome by the other party. We aren't perfect. However, when such minor transgressions occur, it is normally fairly obvious that the person needs to "back off" and all is good again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bennos Mummy View Post
    I am sooooo envious of you both



    I'm sorry your in the situation your in, your ex sounds like a total idiot, it really sucks when the other person can't act like an adult and keep civil for the sake of his child, even if he has problems with you.

    I experience both sides, even though EXP and I have a civil relationship, DP and his son's bio mum are far from where I am with EXP. It really sucks, but I just try stay out of it now, it's something they need to sort out themselves.

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    No i havent. We dont talk but i have always had the door is always open for him policy. He knows that however we no longer communicate with eachother.

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    DF(& I) have a good relationship with his EXW...
    I think the biggest thing is to be able to communicate properly, respect for the other parent and to let go of the past.
    We still have our ups & downs - no relationship is ever perfect but we all get over the petty things and do what's best for DSD.

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    There is no relationship between us anymore, and I am glad. I left him when the girls were 8 months old, they will be 3 next month and in that time he has seen them 3 times.
    I have an exemption in place for CS due to DV and it just not being worth it.
    I ended up cutting all contact as it was just drama and he never made an effort.
    My DD's call my now DF their Dad as they know no different and I like it this way, I don't want toxic people in their life.


 

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