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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    No, you're strong for asking for help.

    You'll be an even more awesome mum once you're rested.
    Totally agree with blissedout, please dont ever feel weak for asking for help! it takes a very strong person to do so.

    Yes, I have a 'break'... either planned or unplanned about once a month. DS goes to my parents for the night. Either because DH and I have something planned (bday dinner, night out or something) or my parents offer that day.

    Occasionally if we are having a particulary bad arvo and DH isnt home DS will go to my Dads (they literally live a min away) and spend 30-60mins whilst I get dinner ready, or clean up, or do nothing!

    I may not win any mother of the year awards but I keep my sanity! and DS gets the best parent I can be from having that time away.

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    When they sleep. Lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    No, you're strong for asking for help.

    You'll be an even more awesome mum once you're rested.
    I couldn't have said it any better !!!!!

    Hugs OP . Xxoo

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    Thanks for the feed back. I'm finding myself forgetting things and just not paying enough attention to her recently and I'm so tired. I stopped working a month ago looking forward to being a full stay at home mum but I feel it just isn't the right balance for me. Maybe I need 2 days at work. Mind you I'm a childcare worker and over the industry would love something new. My life feels like all is the same right now. No balance. DH works then does basketball twice a week and is always out and about. I feel stuck. But I feel guilt more than most and always feel I'm doing wrong by some one when I'm attempting to ask for assistance.

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    Im sorry you are having a tough day.

    My break is when DD goes to bed at night. So from 7pm the night is mine. I think i have it pretty good in that way. Therefore i dont feel im worthy of "getting a break"
    DD also still has 2 x 2hr day naps but during that time i am doing housework or preparing dinner or doing whatever needs doing that's easier to get done while DD naps...like reading Bub Hub

    However i do have days like you when i dont feel 100%, DD is clingy, sooky, teething, not eating , not sleeping, crying alll day..... and all i wish for is someone to take DD off me for an hour so i can think! Unfortunately i dont have someone to take her from me for even 5mins. So it is indeeed a very long hard day.

    Just last week was probably the worst week ive had since DD was a newborn. I didnt feel like my usual self, i was out of the blue tired and unmotivated. i was also becomming rough with DD and that was when i drew the line and told DH "I NEED SOME ME TIME" So i shouted myself a massage and took myself out for a nice lunch BYMYSELF! on saturday while DH was home to be with DD.

    Sometimes you just know when you need a break.
    Sometimes im so jealous of people who have family and friends who will take their kids one day a week or whenever the parent has a "tough time"

    If my mum lived anywhere remotely close to me, i know she wouldnt bat an eyelid to take DD if i was haing it tough, be it for one day or for a week lol!

    I wish i could get a break on the tough days but i'm just not lucky enough to have anyone who can help me out in that way.

    Hope you get your break and are feeling better

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    I bet your parents are excited about a sleep over! My mum nagged me to death to have the kids for years before I gave in. My parents count sleeps (as much as the kids do).

    Everyone needs a break sometimes.

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    I don't think taking a break is weak at all. My mum never had a break from me and my sister. I think that contributed to why she was frustrated at us all the time. She was a great mum, but I think I would have felt more comfortable around her as a child if she'd had a day to herself every now and then.

    My son's 18 months old and every now and then he'll get babysat. I'd never been away for more than two nights (which was last month) but my MIL has had him since Sunday, and she lives three hours away! He's coming home tomorrow thankfully, but the break was very much appreciated. This pregnancy has been pretty taxing physically as well as mentally, so having some time off has been a great opportunity to refresh myself.

    Having a good night's sleep will do you a world of good, and you may find your parents would be delighted to spend some extra time with your DD! You should definitely ask them!

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    Quote Originally Posted by lolly137 View Post
    My mother can't understand it (the camping trip), cause she never did it, thing is though she needed it for her mental health (mum cracked it easily), but never did anything about it but take it out on us kids. I don't ever want to do that to my kids
    My mum was exactly the same with needing a break! Most of what I remember from my childhood is her cracking it over just about everything I did. It probably wasn't as bad as I remember, but I just remember how frustrated she always seemed, she was a SAHM til my sister and I were in school. I think a day off here and there would have loosened her up heaps.

    Thankfully she recognises that she could have used the break now, and because she and I have very much the same personality - she encourages me to take a break if I feel I need one, because she realises it benefits everyone.

    I understand there are some parents who'd rather stay home with their children absolutely every night, which is fine if they can handle it (and some parents can), but I like the odd night off too much :-P My son has a great relationship with all of his family members as well which definitely helps!

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    I have never had a break from either if mine. They are 16 months apart.

    There are times I have been desperate, and called my mum to see if she can help me for a night (she lives about 90mins away) and she is always busy, doing nothing!

    Even DH is pretty useless, very unsupportive when it comes to needing my own time. :-(


 

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