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    Agreed.

    This thread also has me speechless. I have frequently read on this forum how children under the age of 20 do not have a fully developed brain and are therefore unable to make adult decisions. Why does this not apply in this instance?

    What if we replace the word 'cigarette' in this thread with the word 'alcohol'? Still okay? If not, then really what is the difference?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleigh View Post
    Seriously? What woudl be the point. She isnt a younge lady. Im sure she knows that smoking is bad. Its not my place to tell her how to raise her children, but it doesnt mean I cant be disgusted by it.

    ..another thread floating around BH at the moment is about people having opinions and respecting peoples actions etc etc.

    Someone asked 'what right do we have to question?'

    Well right now the concern is the children... if you feel the need to B1tch about it on a public forum then you also should have the power and confidence to question your friend...Why does she do it? -- Does she understand what smoking does? -- was using smokes as a reward/punishment her choice or her childs?


    I'm not a fan at ALL of smoking, but I know that 'most' teenagers will try it.
    Personally I don't agree with this mother's choice and were she a friend of mine it would be a topic of conversation. I wouldn't ATTACK her... but I'd definitely want to dig deeper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cleigh View Post
    THANK YOU I was jsut telling my DP that I couldnt believe people are ok with this
    I don't see where anyone has actually said it's ok? People have said that it is unfortunately normal in today's society and that they don't see it as a big enough issue to report.
    And actually most replies are agreeing with you if you read through them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mum2b09 View Post
    I don't see where anyone has actually said it's ok? People have said that it is unfortunately normal in today's society and that they don't see it as a big enough issue to report.
    And actually most replies are agreeing with you if you read through them.
    Agree x 100,000,000,000 lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mum2b09 View Post
    I don't see where anyone has actually said it's ok? People have said that it is unfortunately normal in today's society and that they don't see it as a big enough issue to report.
    And actually most replies are agreeing with you if you read through them.
    So because its normal in today society it OK to let your child smoke? I can see people are saying its bad to use it as a bribe though.

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    I don't think people are saying its okay. I think most people are saying its absolutely not okay to use cigarettes as rewards or bribery. But what can you do about it? Its not really a docs issue. And having everyone on here agree its wrong won't change it.

    If I was the OP I would say something to her. What's to lose? A friendship that doesn't really exist anyway? But other than that, there aren't a lot of options.

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    DCP in WA doesn't turn a blind eye to reports where kids aren't fed properly or are filthy and not bathed...= neglect.... So I'm sure they'll at least pay them a visit and give them a warning... U'd hope so for those children's sake...
    But as someone said, it is quite common.... Kids today are born to many screwed up families and are exposed to a lot of crap that just seems to be the norm in their circles..Smoking being just one of them... Sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMuppet View Post
    I don't think people are saying its okay. I think most people are saying its absolutely not okay to use cigarettes as rewards or bribery. But what can you do about it? Its not really a docs issue. And having everyone on here agree its wrong won't change it.

    If I was the OP I would say something to her. What's to lose? A friendship that doesn't really exist anyway? But other than that, there aren't a lot of options.
    I just dont see that its my business to say anything to her. She is older than me and that was the first time I met her IRL. She seems set in her ways. I just had to have a vent thats all. Still think its stupid.

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    Seriously? What woudl be the point. She isnt a younge lady. Im sure she knows that smoking is bad. Its not my place to tell her how to raise her children, but it doesnt mean I cant be disgusted by it.
    Well you've put it here and are making it your place. So why not tell her if you are THAT concerned for the children, cause that's your concern right?
    It's just these types of threads that annoy me to no end. 'I have a facebook friend who does this this and that' I mean really? It's nothing but cyber gossip. And stop being fake, if you're going to put it on a forum, bag her out, call her stupid and an abusive mother tell her to her face or take her off your friends list cause you're not a friend.

    No one said they agree with what she's doing, but maybe she feels she has no options, maybe her teens are hard to deal with and the smoking is the least of what they get up to, maybe she needs help. You met her for 3 hours and seem to know alot about their lives?? It's the typical judgemental, gossiping parents who know better, some people have their own growing up to do.

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    im sorry but why does her being older then you mean you cant say something? i can understand the need to vent but if it has bothered you so much you posted about it can it really hurt to just ask her about it?

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