What are your thought's on visitors after bub's arrival?
Remembering back 12mths ago when our first DD was born, i was a bit of a mess. I suffered the "baby blues" on day 2 and did not want to face anyone and wanted only DH beside me and i begged and begged the nurses to let him stay o/night with me.
It just so happened SIL wanted to see bub's on day 2 along with a whole bunch of other family members that same day! WELL.....
Let's just say it did not go down well at all when DH called SIL and explained that i wasnt coping too well today and if we could possibly have her visit when we are home.
She was ****sed off and said she had re-arranged all her plans to make this visit (we live 2hrs away from family) and that she didnt know when she would be free again to see her new niece. DH just apologised. I was FURIOUS WITH HER!
My other SIL (younger than the bittch SIL) asked if we needed anything and was quite fine about seeing DD when we were ready.
DH parents were suprised as they thought i was looking and doing fine. ( i put on a brave face for everyone and i just couldnt do it anymore) but were more than fine with it and visited just before they headed home 2 days later.
So was my SIL out of line?
I dont want a repeat with #2
If we are lucky enough TTC #2, i have a firm belief that i DO NOT want visitors in that first week we are home from hosp. How do you go about telling this to people/family without sounding rude?
I also want minimal visitors in hospital and dont want family making the 2hr trip untill i say it's ok.......is that just un heard of?
How do i keep visitors away, without sounding like a rude hormonal maniac?