Yeah, fair enough.
I was just trying to prove a point
No to all of those. I envy mums who look good more than anything, never judge in a bad way just wish I could look like that and buy some threads.
Also you don't know where they've just come from or going.
People who say stuff like that to you op are just jealous, easiest way to bring someone down they're threatened by.
I don't care how a mum dresses but always wonder how you can change a nappy with long nails!! Genuinely curious!
But behaviour upsets me or makes.me angry. Swearing at kids used to make me angry but now I've got kids it really upsets me. Breaks my heart. Smoking in front of kids I don't understand. Thank God it's illegal to smoke in cars with kids but it can't be policed. I just wish common sense would make people realise that you should NEVER smoke.near kids.
And, OP, good on you for keeping up with looking good! Whatever makes you feel good. If that's makeup and good clothes or a pony tail and trackies, as long as you are comfortable outside and inside, that's.what matters!
How weird. I was just thinking about this yesterday, researching books about judgement as I really wanna change my way. I am getting better with little things that always worried me before, like eg the beloved circumcision threads here that get completely out of control because mums judge other mums. I really couldnt care less for that matter. But sometimes I still catch myself getting caught in a thought that actually is none of my business. Maybe it comes with being passionate about sth, and I am passionate with many parenting choices I make. But I am working on myself ) Brought on by the wish to foster when I am mature enough as I realised fostering a child and being judgemental def doesnt go together...
I would like to say no but i do and it's only things that irk me like smoking around children, not having your baby restrained while you are driving, in winter not putting socks on their feet and parents who just don't dicipline their children.
I do sometimes judge what people wear but only if it's not appropriate.
I used to be one of these people that would dress up to go to the supermarket but since moving here i just don't care anymore, i go to the supermarket in my trackies with DH's hoodie on and my ugg boots and if people want to judge then good on them
I try not to judge based on appearance but I have before when i've seen a local young mother with brand new hair extentions, fake nails, spray tans, new clothes, bags ect and her daughter is filthy, in dirty clothes being pushed around in a broken stroller everytime I see her. And yet she brags about spending money on herself on FB... makes me sick!!
I will confess that in the past I have been a bit judgy wudgy about bottle feeding (please don't lynch me) but then a friends daughter had a double mastectomy at 23 years of age and I thought of all of the judgement that she might be in for if she has kids, which made me think of all of the things that go on in peoples lives that we can not even imagine. I do still have weak moments of judgyness though.
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