It took every ounce of strength not to say something. I forgot to mention she had another child with her that she screamed get the f....k here you little c..t. Made me sick to think what kind of life those kids have.
I wonder why some mothers teeter around in really high heels if it means they can't chase after their toddler when it dashes off. I think they've made a stupid decision to wear those kinds of shoes on those kinds of outings.
As for judging their parenting ability or whatever, that generally involves a number of factors, rather than just one part of them.
I admire those mums who take pride in their appearance. Take the time to do your hair and makeup. Im just too lazy to do anything about myself. Maybe a touch jealous too. Lol but in a good way.
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I don't judge a mum for not leaving the house without make-up on and not in trackies. I grew up with a mum like that and she did it pass on to me for a while. But then my DD1 started asking me why I did it for and I decided I didn't want her to think that she had to change her appearance to look 'presentable' and so I stopped it. My mum stopped doing it too. She wears make up more often than me but no where near as much as she used to and she is okay with going grocery shopping in her walking clothes now, whereas before she would have gone home, got changed, put make-up on and then gone to the grocery shop.
I don't think that make-up = presentable. Clean clothes and maintaining a personal hygiene standard = presentable to me. I would possibly join in a conversation like the one at the mothers group but I wouldn't have been passing judgement either. It's just like most people I know hate getting up early and when they start talking about how they don't understand why people choose to get up early I just jump in and tell them exactly why I'm a morning person OP you should've just told them that you are one of those people and why you do it for.
I'll be honest, I find it sad that society has shaped women in such a way that many believe that in order to be presentable they need to alter their appearance. Men certainly don't have this issue. I'm not judging you in a negative way though.
I judge people more by actions than appearances, although often it seems stereotypical appearances and actions kind of match, IYKWIM? Although I do try hard not to make assumptions.
I find people who make eye contact and look friendly to be approachable, whether they are a mother or not.
You may or may not know that according to the WHO it is better for a smoking mum to BF than FF...
Just goes to show that you really can't win, because I'm sure if she was FF someone would have something to say on a forum about that too.
In response to the OP, nah, I honestly don't notice a lot of the stuff you mentioned.
I'm too busy watching my two mischief makers to notice too much what someone else is up to.
There is always more to a person than meets they eye, and it's pointless making assumptions based on a brief encounter.
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