I am starting to hate my child a lot of the time...
He is 10 and VERY bright, very manipulative and very tenacious if he wants something . We don't get along very well and i find myself being constantly frustrated with him.
He is an only child and as such i try hard to make sure he gets to socialise with other kids.We go out with friends a lot, he is in scouts and has goes on camps, well all in all he gets a pretty good life. He is not spoiled materially but he has a reasonable amount of "stuff". I try to discipline him and install good values.
This is where it all goes wrong.He is a very intense little boy and gets discontented A LOT. It drives me crazy , he has NOTHING to be constantly upset about. He has a very low toleration level if he doesn't like a particular child he will make it very clear and fights (verbal only) arise. He has no coping skills or ability to compromise so he then creates a scene and stomps off and cries. I intervene and tell him that he either participates in the activity or we leave. The fights then continue.I am a useless referee ,i admit it, i despise children when they fight and never know who is right/wrong etc.
Case in point , we went down to a country farm with a load of extended family, he does not like my cousins ds and they were fighting all weekend, my ds can be quite nasty to him .My ds said that he couldn't play nerd guns and when questioned said the other boy was throwing rocks at them. AHHHH.
The weekend before we were at a scouts camp (some parents were also there) and ds had set his bed up in a compartment of the tent. Another boy arrived the next morning and ds suggested that he have the middle compartment so they both had their own space.The ds agreed and then the parent told his ds that the middle place was dirty and to put his bed in with my ds. Well then it was on ALL day between them and another parent stepped in and told my ds off and them i told the other parent off and well i was glad to get out of there. IF ds likes the adults and kids there is no issue but if not there is ALWAYS a drama.He gets punished by losing computer privileges and i talk to him but he is never wrong.Im pulling my hair out..
Yesterday i took him along with some school kids and their parents to the weetbix triathlon .We waited 4 hours as the race was delayed. After asking him very nicely to get his bike as it was time to go , it was 1pm ,we had been there 8, he chucked a tantrum and wanted to look at his camera. I lost it and grabbed his arm and screamed at him as well as swore to get his bike. I barely spoke to him the rest of the day. NOTHING you do for him is enough, he always wants more and i am drained.
I feel like is a very badly behaved spoilt little brat and he embarrasses me a lot. Then on the flip side, other people who never see this side if him say what a great kid he is and what a great mum i am. He has no issues at school, he has a male teacher who he idolises..
I just am worried, i yell at himm ALL the time and am startingg to get verbally abusive . I need help and opinions and advice. I don't care if your blunt, i need to hear what i am doing wrong because i honestly try soo hard with this child and i am starting to just hate him Help!