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    Oh I didn't really answer about raising their children lol.. Haven't had my coffee yet! yeah I will babysit and hopefully be able to help ease the pressure.. One thing I hope is that I can offer some support for those doubts you have with your kids like "am I feeding her too much? Is my milk any good? Are my kids the worst sleepers on the planet? Why are they so hyperactive?" etc

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    I definitely want to help my children in whatever way I can. We have no help at all from either of our families and it gets really hard at times. I swore I would support my children with their children. It is completely their decision on how much or little they want us involved. Fingers crossed loads :-)

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    Absolutely yes without a doubt for certain 100%!!! Anywhere, anytime, for any length of time. The idea of grandbabies makes getting old bearable

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    we planned on having our kids young (started at 26 hope to finish by 32) so that by the time the oldest would propagate (hopefully I'm 50 ish) I will be the active grandmother (yes the nosy interfering one that always brings food). I would prefer if they lived in the same city as I am but if my children live interstate I would visit every 6-8wks and if overseas at least yearly and stay for AGES!!

    I have an interfering involved village here in Brissy and while at times its hell, there are other times I'm so grateful and thankful for them. My mum is a godsend. She babysits regularly - comes over every sat morning so that I can go to work/gym. She brings food over so that I dont have to always eat my own cooking. My brother and his girlfriend often babysit for us so we can go for date nights. His Gf is so wonderful that she cooked and dropped off loads of food when DD was a newbie so that I could just feed and sleep.

    As my second pregnancy progresses, my mum is further taking mondays as a half day so that she can look after DD in the mornings. My aunt is taking fridays as half days so that she can have DD in the mornings so that I can rest. My cousins at 16 and 18 come over weekly to babysit so that I can do housework/rest. My great grandparents at 80 and 90 take DD for walks after church on sundays if I want to catch up with mates for a coffee.

    MIL and FIL flew up and babysat for us when we had a wedding last year. They are very very hands on when they do visit.

    Truely I am blessed. Its going to suck to live in sydney next year with no such support.

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    Absolutely! I don't work, so I don't need a "daycare" but my Mum is still happy to watch them or have them overnight, or even accompany me if I have got something to do that is a bit tricky with children in tow. She also goes a bit nuts spoiling them, which can drive me mad sometimes, but I know I would be the same

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    Both of our parents are young (all In Early 50s) so they all work.... They help out and babysit when they can, or when we ask them on weekends.... Being that I had my DD when I was 21 I guess we'll be the same!

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    If I am in a position to, I definitely will.

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    I will definitely help out as much as I can unless they tell me to back off

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    I'll definitely help as much as I can. Helping our children raise theirs is the "norm" in our culture. I love and appreciate the help we receive from my mum and my in laws. It makes my life a lot easier, so if I can do that for my kids, then I will.
    If my daughter/dil needs to work as well, because they really need the money, then I'd be more than happy to work part time and look after their child/ren on my days off or help them out financially, if DH and I can afford it.

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    I will help out but not to the point where I'm looking after grandkids 5 days a week. I have zero desire in doing that. I will have them a couple of times a week to ease the financial burden of child care, and will look after them so my kids can have time without the kids (sleepovers etc.) I want to be a very involved grandparent but I do not want to be a child carer.
    I don't expect that of my own mother, even though she's helping me out a ton atm. It is for half of the year when I'm at uni and I am making arrangements so she doesn't have my DS 5 days a week next year which is the amount of care he will need (currently my mum helps out 3 days a week). My mum offered to do this...I had arranged childcare for my kids who aren't in school this year. My aunty has her grandchildren 5 days a week and there is no end in sight with her sons all wanting more babies. No one asks her if she is happy to do it, she is expected to. She'd rather watch them than have them go to childcare but she doesn't enjoy her having her life ruled by babies. I think it is very selfish to expect any grandparent to do that.


 

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