I thought I didn't follow routine but after reading some responses it seems in a sense I do.
As babies I never enforced any routine on my children. They were fed when hungry and slept when tired. I don't believe in CC either so everyday was definately very different. But I notice as my kids are getting older a routine starts to fall into place. My youngest has one day sleep and I know what time he is ready to go down, generally it's the same everyday. Our meal times are at the same time and all our kids have certain bedtimes, with our eldest in bed by 7:30. We are not strict on this though, if we have people over or we are out for dinner they handle it quite well (although their behaviour the next day tells a different story). I have friends whose kids do not have any boundaries like these at all. It amazes me that they will happily fall asleep at our outdoor table at 10pm, or on our mat in our living room at this time, because my kids will not sleep anywhere unless they are in the car or in their bed, and so TBH I could never parent like my friend. IMO because of this parenting style my friends children's behaviour is reflected by this and I'm sure the children must long for some regularity. They also seem to rule the roost I cant handle chaos, I need to know that after a big day for everyone my kids are settled and me and hubby can put our feet up at the end of the day and have some time for us and enjoy some peace n quiet too. My kids also go to school, play sport, I study at uni, we run a business etc etc so we NEED balance and familiarity and therefore I guess routine of sorts.