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    Default Financial Dependence

    This is a question for both single parents now and single parents that were.

    Back story is that I am financially independent from FOB. We recieve no support at all with a nil assessment. I work part time however still recieve a fair amount of benefits from government support.

    My issue is, what happens when I decide to take a relationship further. I will obviously loose some of the pPS because I will no longer be classed as single, however I dont want a new partner to be responsible for me financially and secondly responsible financially for my child.

    So what do you do in that kind of situation? Break it off until in a position to be completely financially independent from all govt assistance etc on your own? Break it off with the fellow because he shouldnt have to pick up the slack for a child that isnt his?

    Im not sure what to do, my biggest fear is having to rely on someone else again.

    Has anyone faced these issues and what was the outcome?

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    If you end up in relationship you will lose your PPS as you are no longer single.
    Any entitlement you receive from centrelink or the FAO will be based on yours and you partners combined income.

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    I think you are only considered partnered once you and the other person live together.

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    Interesting question - in not (and definitely not interested in being! ) in this situation anytime soon but I hadn't even thought about this until now!

    How on earth do the government determine what constitutes not being eligible for PP anymore? I could date someone for say, 6 months but that doesn't mean they should help support me financially! Gee, way to scare them off! Lol.

    I recently got a friend's friend in to rent out a room in my house to help me with rent, but there's NO WAY I'm in any kind of relationship with him even though we now share expenses. But how to centre link know that? People will likely lie about these things if it means losing benefits IMO... Not a very reliable system...

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    Agree with Supertrooper.
    Until you're in a de-facto relationship, living together & both contributing towards utilities, they won't see you as not a single parent.

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    It wouldnt be an issue until you and he are living together.
    so to make it work- I wont live with a man until I am financially independant from Centrelink and only then will I consider it.
    if you moved in together you may still be eligible for parentign payment but at the partnered rate and FTBs according to the household income.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PurpleButterfly4 View Post
    Agree with Supertrooper.
    Until you're in a de-facto relationship, living together & both contributing towards utilities, they won't see you as not a single parent.

    No- you just have to be living together, nothing about splitting bills etc. Once they move in c/link assumes they share all costs even if they don't chip in- I've been that situation. C/link classes you and your new DP as a family even though it's not their child etc. Best bet is to wait til you don't need to rely on c/link payments before you move in.

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    I agree with pp, wait. It's a HUGE adjustment for all involved.

    When I was single, I didn't receive PPS as I worked but relied heavily on FTB.

    I paid $94 per week in child care and had a housemate to go halves with in rent.

    Moved in with DP and BAM - he was forced to be instant provider. I lost all FTB and my child care went up to $300+ per week.

    People have said around these forums "but he loves you, he would want to provide" but I actually think it's already a massive adjustment moving in with a woman with child/ren enough without also giving up your weekly paycheck to provide for them!

    I think it's really harsh and I'm not surprised that so many second marriages fail.


 

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