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    One of the main reasons I'm happy for DH to be the SAHP at some stage - so we both get to see things from the other's point of view!

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    I get the 'but you only work 5 hours a shift' which implies that when I get home - I can continue with the house work and domestic servitude.

    pfft to that ... yesterday - coz I'm 37 weeks pregnant and having back issues - I said to husband who had perched himself on the lounge (mind you at the moment he's working 28 hours a week due to injury) and I was like 'uh ah! beds to be striped - floors to be vacuumed'. ... beds were done ... floors ... still waiting.

    He goes to the gym - that's HIS time ... my time is meant to be when our first son is sleeping. When he has to look after our son - that's the only thing he does - doesn't even think about housework.

    I'm sure he wouldn't know we even had a laundry - his dirty clothes just miraculously reappear in his wardrobe.

    He will learn in 2 weeks time when I'm not able to lift a finger due to my caesarean ... **mwhahahahahahhahaaaaaaaaaaaa**

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    I think it's just horrible the way SAHMs are treated in our society. Working mums still carry the burden of majority of child care and housekeeping, but SAHMothering is considered "not working". What a load of crap. What people need to realise that working AT HOME is no different to working elsewhere! It's still work and everybody deserves a break and acknowledgement of their role.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Izzys Dragon View Post
    Maybe have a note-pad, pen & watch on hand for a day or two or week & write down everything you do. Then give it to your DP & explain that once you do all this, there is not really any of this marvelous 'free time' stuff left.
    I did exactly this! Well, almost - did it for a day and wrote it in the Notes on my phone, then sms'd it to DH. He kind of laughed it off, which annoyed me even more!

    Back then I was trying to prove to him how wonderful it would be to have a sah wife in the hope that he wouldn't want me to return to work (didn't work!). Now I work part time and if he gives me cr@p on my days off, I politely tell him to go eff himself :-)

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    Also DH recently watched DS so i could have a 2 hour nap. During that time he tidied up the living area, put all he child proofing things in the kitchen cupboards and vacuumed up after himself. He got all smug like he proved to me that if he could do it, so could I ... Um, for starters you are a total novelty to DS so of course he was happy to sit and watch you drill holes into the cupboards without bothering you! Secondly, 2 hours - big deal! Try a whole day/week!
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    Lmao! What is it with men! Today I spent nearly two hours cleaning out the fridge, will any one notice? Will df be like: Oh Wow the fridge is so clean.. Well done babe. Nope!

    Do men think that their work clothes magically get washed and put away everyday by lil laundry faries?

    Not to mention the jeans he wears for an hour and end up in washing basket because there SOOO dirty !!

    I very much agree with the drive to work and the drive home from work. And the smokeo and the lunch . . . That he get's to spend by HIMSELF !!

    I'm lucky to get 3 seconds by myself in the loo before dd works out where I am and wanders in!

    Although, last weekend he helped blitz the house and I got him to vacume and wipe down the sofa's. He soon realised the time it takes to just do that one "small" job !! He always notices if the sofa's are clean now Lmao !!

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    Dont get me wrong - i love DP with all my heart, but gosh he just does not get it!
    He will usually do the dishes and wash bottles etc for me, and will ask me " what would you like me to do to " but most of the time i say dont worry about doing anything apart from looking after bub when you get home ( so i can do the cleaning and start on dinner, if i left him to do the cleaning it only gets done half hearted and when he vacumes there seems to be stuff all over the floor still! so i just rather do the cleaning myself so i dont have to re do it all! ) Lmao!!

    I think i am going to just plan something one day, and the whole day mind you and have DP look after bub and see how he handles it.. I wouldnt mind so much if he would appreciate what i do all day instead of saying its easy work, because its not!

    Currently DP is feeding our baby while im on here wasting time before i start dinner! LOL!


 

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