before i had my DD i rarely minded hearing about other BFP's even with all the BFNs i had cos it reminded me it can be done, u can get to the elusive BFP. there where some days i didnt want to read it thou but i just skipped it... maybe also if ure going to write about ure PG symptoms and be descriptive, maybe a post warning?? so those who want to read it can and those who dont can skip over it... i dont know.
AFM i poas this morning and its a BFN, waiting for the evil witch to arrive today i guess, so its back to the drawing board for us and a FET #22.
hope others are having better luck ... BFPs all around.
Hi ladies, just a quick update since I'm also posting in the July/August thread. Had the call this morning to confirm results from EPU yesterday. 12 eggs retrieved, 10 mature and 9 fertilised...FX good results continue on Sat. FS wants a 5DT (Monday). Hope you are all well.
So please, don't sensor yourself but maybe just a little **pregnancy mentioned** so we can skip those bits if we're feeling a bit down?? I hope you don't think I am the world's biggest b!tch...I'm not.
I don't want anyone to leave and this whole thing is just making me feel like crap - I wish I had never said anything
katiana - I am so sorry about BFN honey, when is your BT? xx
Rachael - that's an awesome result!! Hopefully all of them make it so you have some frosties xx
I seriously cannot believe how selfish those of you who feel they can't cope with all the pregnancy talk.
This thread became my life and the support and help I got was unbelievable , I couldn't have got thru my horrendous journey without you all. I thought that aside from a purely nice gesture you may actually care what happens to us. But clearly not.
No one feels out of the woods when they only get a BFP till quite sometime, especially if they have had a miscarriage or loss previously. For me to feel booted out was really sad and I cried for quite sometime. Suddenly I was on my own- no one to talk to or run my fears by. Yes we may have a BFP but we have all had a roller coaster ride and all suffered tremendously.
I promised myself that thru this IVf journey that I would never let myself become bitter and twisted about it all, and that I would always be happy for those that get a BFP- you can be happy for others but of course there is a pain that you are sad for yourself. It takes great courage and strength to remind yourself to be happy for the good fortune of others. It is a quality I have tried to have through this journey even though I feel a great sadness for myself when it didn't work for me.
Having had to make the decisn to terminate my last pregnancy as we contracted CMV and then not being able to get pregnant again for many years I feel just as justified to be ****ed off at the world as all of you out there with bFn but I would never ever be so selfish as to prevent others feeling happy.
I am so distressed by what's gone on in this thread- I am sitting here crying thinking how could people who supported me so wonderfully be so mean. Was your support false???
Maybe *pregnancy mentioned*
Im going to take a bit of a step back from things here. Bad things going down here and at work, I cant cope.
I had the tiniest of clots this morning at FMU so now very worried. So another BT tomorrow for peace of mind. Seems likes its a 3WW for me now, then a 4ww and a 5ww. With levels this low.
Well done Rachael!
And SheBelieved and Gampa please dont be so upset.
I am truly sorry if things I wrote offended anyone. That was never my intention.
I will check in from time to time. But for now I need to manage my stress levels.
I completely understand. Me and hd were in the same boat, three yrs ago.
It sure Sux. But to give you some hope, here is what happened to us. Our first cycle three yrs ago. The really struggled to find the 10 sperm we needed. And such poor quality and low numbers, only one fertilized.
We tried again, 1 yr later ( money, work, life stress ) and none fertilized.
I asked so many questions, ( both lots sperm from fresh sample. ). And was told, Sooo much research into eggs, and the women part. The poor little sperm needs more looking into. Hmmmm.
Again, we had to wait another yr, in this time we looked up everything we could on what vitamins, foods ect were good / bad.
Not saying he didn't have A beer of takeaway, but really uped the health side. Even exercising. He wasn't over weight either but slowly lost a few kgs.
So by the third time. He stepped up for the tesa, ( very brave, poor things)
.8 needles either side, still none.
So apart from some, not many in the fresh sample. That's all we had. Now we did have some back up frozen, so our cycle didn't get cancelled. But what they found in his fresh ( after healthy lifestyle ) was there were that few more. Not hundreds but enough for them to be able to do more with sperm prep e.g wash, spin, select. And we got four outa 12 fertilized.
That was in March this year. Bfn later, we jumped back in now and results were better again. Four fertilized, transfer two, and one first little blast !!
I no, everyones story is different, and i asked our embryologist why she thought fert was better, she thinks as more to play with and select from.
There are also drugs ect he may be able to take ??
I no It's really hard, not trying to say " this will work", not even sure if you have done this.
Really just letting you no. It's true what ppl say, anything can happen.
Thinking of you. Big hugs. Xxxc
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