Got my call about an hour and a half ago. Only one fertilised. ONE. They have squeezed me in for a transfer today in about an hour.
We are devestated, and I only just stopped crying. I can't even take DH to the airport to see him off to Brisbane today as I have to go to the clinic so that they can insert me with two weeks of false hope.
DH called the embryologist back to ask a couple of q's.. apparently they only used one straw of sperm under strict instructions from my FS to not waste the stuff. But next time I think we're gonna have to tell them to use more. He said they chose six sperm that had motility, but the abnormality rate was just so high that's probably why five of the six didn't fertilise.
Poor DH has to go and be alone in Brisbane now.. at least I have the cats to cuddle.
I'm sorry Sariele! I keep being told that 1 is all you need- so I REALLY REALLY hope this little one is made of lots of sticky stuff! Keeping you in my thoughts!!! Xxx
Sariele honey I am sorry. I know that shock too well. But u r still in the game with one fertilised. U have to hang on to that hope. Your poor dh, I assume he works away. Mine used to do that too. Remember also not all sperm is gd or bad. That's what keeps me going. Xx
Happy to talk about d3, d5 stuff later, anytime.
Sariele, I hope this comes across the right way - if you were doing this naturally rather than by IVf, you'd have one embryo. Try not to lose hope before you've given that little one a chance!
marttc, I still have my fingers crossed for you.
Amps, that sounds terrible, hope you are starting to feel better after an unfairly rough time.
Ah, wow moving to Brisvegas hey! Noice!
Now, re your its probably pointless comment: NEVER! If you put one back in there is always the chance, always! That is what my FS says and he's been doing this a long time! We have to work with what we have. And, you my dear, and your DH, have had your fair share of sh*t, so sometime, its got to get better! One step at a time...
(I have that written on my desk at work and on my dresser mirror at home)
Sorry if I have stressed you out, was never my intention.
Thank you SelM22, I am going to do my best to keep hoping, and I promised DH when I left this morning that I would spend some time every day giving pep talks to "Timmy" (our joke name for our hypothetical child), and coaxing it to keep growing.
And littlesunflowers, you are quite right of course. Maybe this one little sperm will be the fighter that will make our dream come true. You never know.
On the positive side, I gave myself my first rectal pessary when I got home from what I am calling ZT (zygote transfer), and it was nothing; I can't believe I was so scared of sticking something "up there"! Lol.
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